I've been with my man for 2 years he's asked me to marry him and to move in with him. Everything was good at first and now he says after 2 years that i'm to young for him and he just can't deal with everything. I don't get it I do everything for him get his clothes ready in the morning , cook for him, run his bathwater,rub his feet, anything and everything he ask me to do . So why does he always hurt me. He never takes me out, never brings anybody around me, never call me when he has time, never talks to me ( that's a lie he talks to me when he needs me to do something for him). WHAT DO I DO. WHY IS HE LIKE THAT.
2007-10-20 14:54:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes it backfires to cater to someone's every whim. I think that men and women alike don't actually want to be completely worshiped all the time ...and it sounds as though you're worshiping him! Play a little hard to get... make him work to get/keep you, because you're worth it! You might find that it will make him sit up and take notice when you don't cater to him 24/7. He shouldn't treat you that way at all... you're worth WAY more than that.. but, if you are truly in love with him, then try backing off a little...you need to remind him that you're awesome and that you DO NOT deserve this treatment. It sounds like any man would be extremely lucky to have you and it sounds as though he needs to be reminded of what it's like without you being available to him. I would certainly resolve this problem before accepting any marriage proposals. It could get worse if you're married before this is resolved.
2007-10-20 15:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Nattie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he realized that he is not ready for this type of commitment. I don't know your ages, but being too young or old for someone does not only refer to your age difference.
If you are not married yet, I think you should move out and get your own place. If he wants you back, he needs to earn it and prove it. I agree that you should stop being his doormat. No one deserves to be treated like a slave. It's not that you did anything wrong. But you enable that behaviour because you continue to do all those things for him and he doesn't appreciate it or return it.
Not all men are like that. My hubby is the kindest and most respectful man I've ever met. He treats me well, and is very chivalrous towards me. I couldn't ask for anything more in a mate. But I will say that the reason I found him was because I would not accept anything less. I am secure in myself enough to know that settling for less than what I deserve was not an option. I was content to remain single, but God had other plans for me, and put my hubby in my life.
2007-10-20 22:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by notarycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be expecting for answers what you already know. The guy's an idiot and enjoys the control he has over you. The answer is obvious but also easier said than done when you're in love with someone. But he treats you like crap because you let him. Get rid of him or it will go on and on for years and years...
2007-10-20 22:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by uh ya whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just thought that I would let you in on a little secret it is not allways the men that treat you badly it is the women too. men just dont go and sob and cry so the whole world can hear it. I have been in 2 of my past 2 relationships where the women has hurt me. So stop labeling.
2007-10-20 22:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by maybeeoneday 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guys are real bastards, whose only use is to be used as a brush to clean out Godzilla's toilet. This guy must have been one of them, and I am sorry that he did this to a sweet girl like you. I hope and pray you find someone who will love, cherish, and appreciate you for who you are.
That being said, please don't lump all of us guys into this category. Some of us are caring and loyal to the woman we love. (Ask my wife if you don't believe me). And, before I met her, I have had a couple of women do the same thing to me that this guy has done for you, so its not just guys who do this sort of thing. My prayers and best wishes!
2007-10-20 22:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by rhino 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with rusty 719 get out he is getting what he wants an thinks he can take advantage of it as for as why he is that way some guys just are DONT LET THAT make you think all guys are the same way
2007-10-20 22:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not married to him . No kid`s .
Get out and get on with your life. Good Luck .
2007-10-20 22:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by bigfred1954 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to marry a man like him!? Move on, stop being his doormat, because hes getting what he wants and obviously thats all that matters to him!
2007-10-20 21:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by rusty71987 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats their defense mechanism lol.
2007-10-20 21:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Water 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i am in the same situation..... leave him!!!!
i should take my own advice...
2007-10-20 22:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by xoxoj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋