- I've been w/ this girl for 5 months, but we're not in a relationship and I realize that when someone better comes around, she will leave me. That kind of reality will only hurt greatly in the end, but the truth is I like how we are right now, it's just the future of knowing someone will have his arms or lips on hers hurt me greatly.
2007-10-20 14:52:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The sooner you break up with this girl the better it will be, just get it out of your way.....but if youre doing good right now then there's no reason to break up until something actually happens ........... how do you know things arent going to work out? Dont let your insecurities ruin this relationship if things are good right now......Try to live in the moment even though it can be hard at times :) Good Luck
2007-10-20 14:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by sandi_villanueva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is this, if you are so insecure that you think that your girlfriend is likely to leave you at the drop of a dime and that there is "someone better" than you are, you don't need to be in a relationship with ANYONE. If she is with you then it's because she wants to be. If/when she wants to leave then it will be her choice and there's nothing that you can do about it, so why think about it. You say that you like how things are between the two of you right now? If that's the case then just enjoy how things are now instead of worrying about what/who she's going to see if/when she leaves you. You can't have a successful relationship if you haven't worked out your personal issues. Regardless of how great your partner is, no one can make you feel secure other than yourself. You have to believe that you deserve the good things that you get and that you don't only have them because of some cosmic mistake or because there is no one better at the time. As far as not wanting to think about someone else touching her, depending on your age, someone probably already has touched her in places that are much more intimate than her lips....but you aren't worrying about that because that's in the past and she's with you now. You should use that same logic when it comes to the future. She's with you now, so don't worry about who she'll be with in the future. She'll be with you in the future because you're going to continue to make her as happy as she makes you, RIGHT?
2007-10-20 15:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you know for sure that you will eventually break up, do it sooner then later because the longer it goes the more it will hurt... and if you explain to her that you enjoy hanging out with her but you don't think it's not like being in a relationship and that you would still love to still be friends then it might not hurt as much. or just talk to her about how she feels. Does she feel the same way.
talk to her before you do anything
there will be more understood.
2007-10-20 14:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Karlee G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you sure this will happen? If you like how things are, do what you can to keep her. Tell her how much you like her and like being with her. Treat her like she's important to you. Who knows what the future will hold?
(And I don't understand what you mean by "we're not in a relationship"? Can you change that situation?)
2007-10-20 14:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum........... Don't break up with someone because of what you think may happen.
2007-10-20 14:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by dgizrobin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you really love her?
or are you just afraid of having no one?
because being honest with you, to really love someone, you should know them
and if you know that she will run off with the next guy
and you still love her
then you've accepted it
and you have no problem
on the other hand, id say you're afraid of the pain of being single again, which is fair enough
but dont let it stop you
its just something you have to endure
sorry mate
2007-10-20 14:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by St.John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should make a step back and think hard on what you and her really want now. She may or maynot hurt you but it sounds if she doesn't want a relationship right now.
2007-10-20 14:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her it is off. I assume you will never be in a relationship because anyone can leave you at anytime for any reason. Good luck.
2007-10-20 14:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u should diffinately get out now! but make sure she was serious about the whole "finding someone better thing" i mean that is really mean. she obviously doesn't respect you. and disrespect can never lead to a healthy relationship.
2007-10-20 14:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Brigee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it to yourself then... why would you want to be with her longer and know her more and have a deeper relationship with her, if you know that you guys won't be together and seeing her with someone else will hurt you.
2007-10-20 14:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tano A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋