is it a bad idea for a women to ask to merry you after dating a month?

Question

i was wondering if it's a good or bad idea if the women your dating brings up marrage only after a month dating. as for me it's a bad sign for the relationship.
if a women brings up marrage after less then a month or longer then i think i should move on

Answer 1

way toooooo soon to be bringing up marriage!! be careful...

Answer 2

I would say typically yes, bad idea, while it is possible she can feel this strongly if you really connect on that deep a level, it takes two. Do you feel just as strongly....if so, why are you here asking someone else's oppinion.

You also have to keep your guard up rather than be swept away, because people do alot of different things that may seem crazy to some, and to others, just their cup of tea.
She could really believe in the two of you, but do you feel the same, and even if so, rushing this isn't smart, the actual getting married, because any one of numerous things can happen, even after years, where a blessing ends in a disaster.
You also have to wonder if it's just the idea of marriage for her, or about being married to you, there's a difference, and are you ready?
Then worst case scenario, she has a skeleton in the closet, an alterior motive, it's horrible to have to be in a boat to have to analyze everything, but come on, could she have an STD and wanna be sticking someone so she isn't alone, and later say she didn't know?
Could she be out to be taken care of, the free ride?
who knows, get to know this person to make an actual judgement, and be safe in the meantime, very safe.
Find out if she's upstanding or not, and can actually make you happy and a good wife, and you can do the same as a husband, date and play it safe, and if she pushes the issue....you may wanna back her off

Answer 3

Well, if i were you, to find out her true intentions, I would stay with her and don't accept the idea of marriage after such a short time period.

When a woman asks you for marriage it might be that she is genuinely interested in you and just wants to scoop you up before someone else does, or she could just be after something, sometimes money, or other material possessions, or she might be using you to get emotional revenge on someone she knows.

But the truth is, you will never know, especially in 1 month. If I were you I would stay with her and if she is genuine, you would see that she is, but if she is lying, you'll see certain "tell-tale" signs that she is just putting on a play and she wants to marry you for some other reason other than love.

Marriage in my opinion should only happen if the people know eachother for more than 2 years and were in a relationship for at least 1 yr 11 months of that time.

One should never rush into marriage.

Answer 4

Well some people say that they can tell when they just meet someone that they just know. But I think if someone, especially a girl, is asking about marriage right away and is obviously not getting that same vibe from the other person she may be more in love with the idea of being married. Some girls are like that, all their friends have a baby or are getting married and they feel they need to rush it. But if you keep leaving every women who talks about marriage you'll never get married (could be what you want though and that's just fine as well :) If you really like the girl talk to her about how you like her but that marriage is moving too fast and that you really need to slow down and talk about how long you would realistically want to be with someone before marrying them. Believe me if she wants to "just be married" she'll probably leave you for someone who will.

Answer 5

Some women just like the idea of getting married. The whole wedding and honeymoon but they dont want to actually be married to the person. If you haven't been dating for a month then, I think she just wants to rush into a wedding not an actual marriage. I think it's a bad sign too unless you just have really deep feelings towards someone.

Answer 6

Well man or woman.. after a month into any relationship is wayyyy to early to even think about marriage. Marriage is not something that should be rushed into. Maybe move on is a bit harsh. However if it were me and I was faced with the situation, I think the best thing to do is just talk to the person and tell them how I felt on the subject. Good luck.

Answer 7

I'd say that would be a bad sign, unless she was just letting you know that was what she is ultimately looking for in a relationship. If that's not what you want then better stop wasting her time. If she seriously thinks she knows you well enough to marry you after only a month.... well I don't think anyone could know someone that well in that short a time.

Answer 8

Yes, that's a bad sign. You should be together for over a year before you talk about marriage.
If you do get married that quick your probably find out many crazy things about that women.

Answer 9

Its good that she is so interested so soon, but it shows bad judgment on her part.

I would be nervous to merry a woman who was so quick to ask me that question, because to me - it seems she does not take time to think things out.

Perhaps later (in the marriage) she will continue to make important decisions with little thought or patience? ... this could cause a lot of grief later on.

Answer 10

That seems a bit early to me. I suppose it depends on whether you want a longer lasting relationship with her. I don't think people should rush into marriage so quickly.

Answer 11

Look into your heart dude, but yes it is kind of weird that someone wants to get married after a month. remember this is a life time commitment, don't fool yourself think about it carefully.


peace out