God and free will?

Question

Humans have several NEEDS that they can't live without and these NEED are not wants, they are NEEDS which I think shape you life and go even against your free will.

One need is the need to have a companion in life. Man or Women. We need a significant other. Few people can live alone the rest of their lifes. I myself am single and wish I had a special someone to share life with. This need keeps me from been fully happy because the need of having someone to share a life with is void.

Having a special someone can take freedoms from a person, He is no longer free to do as he wants because he has someone else to consider...but at the same time it creates happines to share a life with someone.

There are other needs that shape your life, and create restriction but make you happy.

So do you consider yourself free or slaved to your emotional needs?

William T, you are blind. I bet all my money that you are either in a relationship or just getting out of one or wanting one. You can't scape that NEED. So what are you talking about. There has been people that have comitted suicide from loneliness. I bet you can live all your life alone. you will kill yourself. Open your eyes buddy.

MICHAEL Z, You are emotionally salved. What you want is not really what you need. You Need companionship, you need to be loved, you need to love and contribute. You can choose to live you life alone, but you will be unhappy because those needs have not been met. Your life will be void. It is like humans have a built in compass...we can go against the compass but it will cause some sort of unhappiness. Needs are more important than you wants.

Answer 1

I NEED Oxygen, water, food, protection from the elements... While companionship is desirable, it doesn't reach the same level of necessity as the basic things which ensure my existence in this physical universe.

Happiness is another matter altogether. Even without a significant other, most people live in societies and have lots of interaction with other people on a daily basis. But there are people who live for years in isolated conditions- hospitalized, imprisoned or voluntarily living in solitude in remote areas of the world.

But those extreme cases aside, most people aren't entirely happy- even those with spouses and/or families. Many people would argue that they NEED freedom, or need an outlet for creative expression (writing, drawing etc)

So while I agree our desires constrain us all to some degree, emotional necessity is a concept which I don't entirely buy into. Therefore I think we are more free than we realize.

How does the concept of God fit into all of this? Whatever my tendencies, reactions, dislikes etc. an all-powerful and all-knowing creator would know them when he created me, which calls into question whether I can really do anything that he didn't intend for me to do...

Answer 2

Human beings were created in the image of God and when He had created Adam he said it is not good that man should be alone so he then put Adam into a deep sleep and took a rib and created Eve. When God gave Adam a "helpmeet" it was female. Your premise assumes that "anyone" would help meet the needs you feel. To be truly happy you cannot rely on another individual. You cannot find happiness in another. You can find yourself "content" and "satisfied" with or without someone. You express your thoughts that you have "needs" and you want to know if we have restrictions can we be happy. Well, I have been single all my life. In love once but fortunately when he passed away I knew that I could find the same joy I knew while he was alive. Because he was NOT my source of joy and fulfillment. My relationship with the creator of the universe and His only son is truly my greatest joy. If you don't think you can be happy without someone then I suggest you marry. But don't marry if you believe that is the only way you can find "happiness."

Just my opinion. You do indeed have free will.

Answer 3

I think most people want to settle down at some point. Having lots of premarital sex with many partners gets boring. That's where emotional needs, like security and someone who you can come home too comes in.

With that said, I don't feel enslaved by my wife or the fact that I miss her when we are apart. I can still get loaded, watch baseball or play video games, crank some music, and have a grand ol' time while I wait. She's just the icing on the cake Even pets have the need to love or the need to be wanted. It's not just a human trait.

Answer 4

I am married and but still consider myself free, just like I love God but still have free will. You are right when you say that someone will tend to "restrictions" on their life due to the love they have for the other person and the commitment to the preservation of the relationship. This change in behavior is NOT removing their ability to act but rather is an act of submission to the other person and the relationship as a whole.

An example may help. I love my wife and aas a result I CHOOSE not to frequent bars and flirt with women. I still have the ability and freedom to do these things. They would, however, be a great detriment to the relationship with my wife so I do not do them.

Answer 5

Well, both. Freedom, while considered essential, is also merely a frame of mind brought on through cultural development and personal introspection. Freedom therefore means different things to different people. That being said, so to is the term: Needs. While there are essential needs, food, water, air, shelter, and even companionship; there are also self-perceived needs that are unique to each person. I need to get my kill on with Ghost Recon every week. I need two cups of coffee a day. I need to be able to just hang out and let loose with the guys and a few beers at Buffalo Wild Wings. You mentioned creating restriction, yet at the same time making you happy. Well, if it is making you happy, yet restricting you from doing something, than it is not a hinderance to your happiness; rather, a hinderance to your selfish interests (we all have selfish interests, this is not a put down to you). Just because it is perceived as a need, does not mean it is a need. It merely means it is something we really want. An alcoholic perceives they need that drink, much like I perceive I need that cup of coffee EVERY morning. Do they, or I for that matter? No. So will I am not saying if it make you feel good, do it; I am saying that if you perceived need is sacrificed for the need or others (to include you) than you are not a slave to that, but rather free from the restraints of your selfish wants and desires. For example, a Marine faced with imminent death seeks to sacrifice his life for those of his brothers-in-arms. His need for self-preservation is disregarded for those he serves with. While this may be seen as a drastic example, it touches on how emotion is the prime engine to project us from ourselves and to consider others.
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When placing someone above us, or placing the good of a relationship over our own personal wants, we create a sacrifice on our own party. Sacrifice makes the intangible more real. We can somehow comprehend its exists through the hurt of losing something we personally wanted/valued. While its is still an intangible asset, it only grows in value because (being driven by our need of being with others) we have invested something of worth to ourselves into something that is mutually perceived to be a need/want. This is why the bitterness of a break-up/divorce can be so traumatic, as we sacrificed so much into what was perceived as a mutual commitment; which means lost all we had and gave up ourselves for nothing.

Answer 6

Needs do not shape your life. Needs are needs. They do not dictate your life. You decide where your life goes or doesn't go.
You have to answer your own question.

I am single too and I live alone also and yes it does hurt but you can not let that stifle the rest of your life. If you cherish such freedoms so much then maybe you shouldn't be married. The situation or choices do not dictate your life. You have to make the choices ... thats what dictates your life... the consequences of those choices. I choose not to go out tonight because that is what I want. I am alone but I have to accept that. If I can't accept that then I need to go out of the house.

Answer 7

I wouldn't call this a "need" in the most basic sense because I certainly don't need someone. It is definitely a very solid want, and a want that becomes so very strong at some times that it masquerades as a need. Maslow would put it half-way up the pile of needs, indicating that it is only a need when it remains unsatisfied and all other things below it are satisfied. I tend to agree with Mr. Maslow.

Answer 8

People often confuse needs and desires, just as they confuse issues concerning free will versus fatalism. For example a person can live (even happily) without a spouse.

Likewise people's desire to sin does not mean they are forced to sin and as such does not free them up from culpability.

Answer 9

I observed this play and that i undergo in strategies the "verdict" from the three "judges" stumbled on God to blame of breaking his covenant with Israel. They concluded that the God of Abraham had made a sparkling covenant and that their God replaced into now no longer completely the God of Abraham and of Israel. to respond to your question, how might Hitler fare if he replaced into in God's court docket being judged via God's regulations? If I have been area of the jury, i may be compelled to usher in a verdict of to blame based on the certainty he dedicated genocide (to the song on some 6.5 million human beings) and, considering which you point out the ten Commandments, broke all of them besides. in spite of the indisputable fact that, none human beings are acceptable. all of us sin. it relatively is in simple terms that some human beings know it at the same time as the rest are in denial. lack of expertise isn't an excuse. Ever tried telling a site visitors cop which you probably did no longer know you have been in a 30 miles in keeping with hour constrained section once you have been clocked doing forty? Like, you probably did no longer see the line lights or the advisory speed shrink indications till now you got here into the outfitted up section? which you have been in a hurry and your business enterprise replaced into extra important than the existence of a individual you will possibly kill? the certainty is we refuse to take accountability for our strikes - for my area and together. considering that lack of expertise of the regulation isn't a defensible excuse, possibly we ought to consistently be paying extra interest to God's regulations till now we hit upon ourselves answering to God for our strikes.

Answer 10

Funny how life works. What you think you cannot live without, once you get it you realize how wrong you were. But you had to get it to realize you were wrong. Until you get it you still long for it. It is impossible to know how wrong you are until after you get it. When you get it, it is never as good as you thought it would be. Life is funny that way. Best to wait on God's plan for your life. He makes better choices than we do. Our impatience always causes us to run ahead of God and into trouble.