How would you react if your S.O. wanted to go out to the bar with someone of the opposite sex that you never met. Plus haven't heard or know of them very well. Would you be cool with it or not or would it freak you out?
2007-10-20 13:03:15 · 23 answers · asked by ☮ Erica ☮ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be really suspicious. Him telling you is good, and honest... but sometimes people use "honesty" as a type of blindfold to distract their lovers from what's really going on.
I'd play reverse psychology... "Oh, alright. Well, then I guess it'd be okay for me to take (fill in the blank here with a guy's name - make someone up, who cares) up on his offers to buy me a few drinks sometime. He's been asking and asking but I kept saying no cause of you, but if you're going out, might as well...."
Say it's someone from work/school your "just friends" with and just talk to here and there at work/school.
See if he goes then!
2007-10-20 13:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't freak out, but he wouldn't go either. In our relationship, that wouldn't even be an option, for either of us. Just 2 people of the opposite sex going to the bar...sounds suspicious to me. If it was a group thing, then I wouldn't have a problem.
2007-10-21 18:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by Clarisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is their relationship? Work, cousins, friends from junior high, former girlfriend? I think a lot would depend on that? There are some situations where this would be cause for concern and others where it is not. If it is not a cause for concern and you are jealous, you will look very bad since jealousy is a sign of deep insecurity and nobody likes that, it is very bad for relationships (I've broken up with women just because they had jealous tendencies).
2007-10-20 20:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be mad, but I wouldn't let him know I was mad. I would say that I was going out with a guy friend who he had never met and see how he reacted to it. I mean really if it's a boys night and theirs a girl there its not a boys night. Play the game......and see how it goes. See how he reacts
2007-10-20 20:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by dunno22222222222222222 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, ask him if you can do the same, if he says yes then he doesn't respect you YOU--don't need him tell him "adios" and if he says yes you can do the same, he doesn't respect you because he is willing to share you OUCH, I think your S.O. is either trying to test how far he can get or he's ready to move on.
peace
2007-10-20 20:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Remy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would flip out. I don't like my husband going to bars period and because he knows this, he doesn't go. If he has told you about going to a bar with some girl I would say that you don't need to worry too much, but why don't you tag along? Talk to him and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable that he wants to go to a bar with a girl and on top of that you don't even know her.
I'm sort of the jealous type (getting over it though) So it's hard to give good advice on this one. But def. talk to him. And express your feelings. Don't accuse him of anything, though, nor get angry. Just talk casually about it.
2007-10-20 20:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would definately freak me out. I would try to see if I could agree with my SO to allow me to tag along. There should be no big reason why I couldn't go also. However, when I offer to go and get declined I would get more freaked out. I would try talking to SO and try to get more information about this person. Good luck with your situation.
2007-10-20 20:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by mastermind278 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how long you have been together and how serious you are. If you make a big thing about it and it really is nothing....it will cause problems..but if you are really uncomfortable with it...be honest..maybe ask to meet this person casually first so you will know who they are.. hope this helps:)
2007-10-20 20:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Karen O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely be raising my eye brows about it.
What is the point of the S. O.? Is it to much effort to spell out the words.
2007-10-20 20:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by MICHAEL Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone wants to be okay with it and trust the person but were human and it isnt always easy this isnt the answer u need ask urself if ur okay with it cuz i can usder stand both ways
2007-10-20 20:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋