A friend of mine is getting married his fiance has asked that the guests bring the food to the wedding shower "pot luck "is what she calls it..I am worried that the guests will find it to be tacky and not show please give me an Honest answer...
2007-10-20 11:13:40 · 12 answers · asked by hieatthouse 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your friend's fiance is quite frankly, very tacky and very greedy to be throwing her own shower and expecting the guests to supply their own food. This is very low class behavior and reflects poorly on your friend as well. I would definitely take him aside and say something to him.
2007-10-21 04:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by cocoaroma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when is it OK for the guests to bring the food and give gifts for a bridal couple? This is not acceptable with the ethnic groups that I work with with.
The bride should not expect guests to bring the refreshments to the reception, and it is unseemly for the guests to be expected to provide what the bride desires in the way of food. This is not acceptable. If her family cannot afford a proper reception, then cake and punch should be all that is served.
Yes, this is tacky
2007-10-21 02:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bromeliad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think wedding showers are tacky - - I do not go no matter who supplies the food. Buying a gift for the wedding is enough for me thank you.... as far as inviting people to a party and telling them to bring food AND a gift, yes, that is a bit off the wall, but I would not SAY anything - they will find out all by themselves.
2007-10-20 18:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, to a wedding shower pot luck is tacky. Food isn't a bank breaker and she could have come up with some tea sandwiches and hors d'oeuvres, that is ridiculous.
2007-10-20 20:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tacky, tacky, tacky!! Hosting her own shower just to get gifts and too d+mn cheap to even provide food!!! No way would I attend or even consider sending this cheap, greedy beeoch a gift. If the guy is really a friend - offer him some friendly advice, this makes him look bad too.
2007-10-20 18:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by labadala l 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There may be a bigger "error in ettiquette" than a potluck buffet at a wedding shower.
Whoever is hosting the shower should be making food decisions and arrangements; and, to be sure, the bride, herself, should NOT be hosting her own shower.
As to the potluck dishes for the shower, why not? **IF** the event is to be casual, then a potluck buffet is fine. In fact, it sounds like a better meal than the jordan almonds, finger sandwiches, cake and punch usually served at these things.
2007-10-20 18:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing tacky about that. A small intimate wedding with only close friends and family is a perfect time for pot luck.
I was at a wedding recently where it was salami sandwiches and hoagies from the local deli.
I've been to others where it was meatball sandwiches and peel and eat shrimp.
What's the difference? What's the big deal?
2007-10-20 23:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would, as Alex Trebek would say, phrase it in the form of a question. Example: "do you think people would have a problem having to supply their own food AND bringing a present? That's not asking for too much, is it?" This will make her think about it.
2007-10-20 20:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by julz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a problem with "pot luck" but i would have a problem if there are over say 15 people invited
if you cant afford the money to pay for food at your party and you are inviting alot of people you are just looking for presents in my opinion.
2007-10-20 18:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by darcymc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right... people might not choose to come to a potluck shower. But people like that probably aren't that good of friends anyway. I'm getting the impression that this girl is throwing the shower for herself? That's an etiquette no-no. Personally I think people are more likely to be offended by that than the potluck. But honestly, true friends are not going to be offended by either.
2007-10-20 20:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋