My ex wants me to go away with him to Miami Beach for my birthday. He know's that I'll be eighteen then. I told him that Im currently in a new realationship and Im trying to build our love for eachother again, My realation now isn't really a new one either he had to do time in jail for something that he didn't do really. I don't know what to do as far as the ex-boyfriend situation. I still have feelings for him alot but I don't want to make it seem like he can always have me. He thinks in his head that no matter what Im doing he'll always be apart of me. What should I tell him. I want to let him go. So how would I tell him that in a way that he will understand and go on about his business for good???? I also told him that Im pregnant by my boyfriend and im engaged and he still seems to not care. He said "why wouldn't I want you anymore" I need advice on what to do
2007-10-20 11:10:36 · 21 answers · asked by ikea t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Erm...usually in the TV soaps, the guy is some control freak / potential stalker / desperate wannabe.
If he doesn't care, then tell him to back off for a while and take a look from your perspective (OPTIONAL: FOR GOODNESS SAKE...if you're mad that is.)
If he really starts to like threaten (doubt it) get some type of guardian/official help
2007-10-20 11:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide who you want. I know it's hard when you feel torn both ways, but you're not being fair to either guy by stringing each of them along. Make a decision and stick to it. You're engaged and pregnant. That should be the deciding factor, even though you still have feelings for the other guy. Your ex is trying in a friendly way to bully you back into the relationship. Don't spoil the new love by bandying back and forth. If your present guy finds out you're taking a trip with guy no. 1, he'll probably drop you. Then the ex may decide he doesn't want a child by another man. Then what would you do? Think about it, and make a decision that will benefit you and the baby in the long run. Good luck!
2007-10-20 11:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww. even though you dont want to hear this, but i think your ex boyfriend really cares about you. Even after you told him that you are pregnant and engaged. and he still wants to be with you. Wow. Most boys would just move on after being told that.
Just tell him that you and him arent going to work out and you want to move on right now. And just tell him that if this current relationship that you are in doesnt work out, that you will let him know and maybe you two could work something out then, but just for now go your separate ways.
You shouldnt make him suffer either if you tell him you dont want to see him ever again. I would be so heartbroken i wouldnt want to live anymore if the boy i fell in love with didnt want to be with me anymore and wanted to be with someone else and was in the same situation. I would still want to be friends with him. even if i couldnt have him. Being friends would be better than having not connection at all.
2007-10-20 11:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Angelkins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, Honey! You need to stop dating altogether and find yourself. You are not defined by the men in your life...and soon, you'll have a little one to care for. Time to grow up!
Tell them both you need time to think things through and that they must leave you alone until you do. Then tell them that you will only settle for a guy who is willing to marry you and raise the kid. You'll find out who the "real" one is, I'll wager.
Is there a relative you can move in with that will help you with the baby? Life is hard and relationships only complicate things.
2007-10-20 11:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, miss, please ease up on the soap opera in your life. This sort of thing tends to snowball. Some people simply attract soap opera vibes. My ex was like that. Letting go was hard and dangerous. He tried to run my fuel efficient two door sedan off a windy country road with his SUV. I escaped barely and took out a restraining order. Since then I have moved. Don't let your situation get out of hand.
2007-10-20 11:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not 18 yet, then you are technically still a minor in most states, and he can get in serious trouble for hassling you. Tell him you know this, and will call the police if he does not leave you alone. Safe bet you will not hear from him again.
2007-10-20 11:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by rhino 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is what u need to do tell him straight up that if u tryna get back wit me then thats gonna be a thing u cant do because im already in a realashanship and i aint no thing u can tuck into the closet and get out when u want it
2007-10-20 11:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make it very,very clear to him that you have no interest in pursuing a relationship with him if that is truely the case.Also,you can't give any mixed signals to him.In other words,if you have problems don't go running to the ex bf
2007-10-20 11:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get real, tell ths guy it is over, you have moved on, why are you wasting tme on him?He wll not let you go because you are still giving him false hope! Stop communicating with him, do not answer his calls. Break free, on your terms. why are you still hanging on? That is the quesion!
2007-10-20 11:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to find another girl so he can forget you. think about your soon to be husband and your child. they are more important than your ex. your attention is in your family now. your not a little girl anymore able to run around and chase boys. your bound into your marriage and family.
say bye to your ex and go on with your life.
2007-10-20 11:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by Charles W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋