My friend aged 78 is arranging that when he dies his body will be taken immediately, to the crematorium or ASAP and before the memorial service for friends and family,which will be a celebration of his life, to be held a couple of days later. What do you think of his plans.
2007-10-20 10:44:57 · 24 answers · asked by Curly Top 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thats called a direct cremation alot of people do this and I think it is a good plan
2007-10-20 10:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think his last wishes should be carried out. It is or was his body and if he doesn't want to be put on display and have people walk by, then that should settle it
I am having a closed coffin with just a couple of my favorite songs being played on CD..these are sung by my husband and another by my Brother and Sister in law,,,,,it is what I choose to do and a Preacher to say a few words. ...
I do not want a wake or whatever you call it, when people come days before your funeral and sign books and such....just a simple funeral with family and a few close Friends that want to come. My husband feels the same way. And I want it done quickly so my husband can move on and not grieve for too long.
2007-10-20 11:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by dreamdress2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a terrific idea. It's what I would want at my memorial service. I have the strong belief that, well, earth to earth, dust to dust, something like that. I want my body cremated and the ashes spread somewhere where they will go back into the earth, not sealed in some coffin and vault where there's no air and the body just...lays there....deteriorated, but...just laying there. And I've always loved the idea of celebrating a person's life when they die. I want happy music to be played and sang at my memorial service, with a reception...maybe even balloons. No funeral for me with black veils and mourning!
2007-10-20 11:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by lady_gertie02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is totally up to him. I know a lot of people dont want a somber event at a funneral home. They would rathter have a celebration of there life in the form of a memorial service. I have been to a few of these, and it is a place to celebrate WHO the person was. Not the fact they are no longer with us. I think that is what I would like also.
2007-10-20 11:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by julie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have the chance to organise your own funeral you should. I know that I do not want sadness at my Death Day Party, everyone who comes must dress up as though it is a party a celebrate my life not mourn me, I also want my choice of music after all its my party. I am not religious in the christian sense, so I am not really looking to have all the paraphernalia that goes with a church service, and I want a green burial. So organising mine is important to me, I do not want my children to have to worry about it either.
2007-10-21 01:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by ecchinswell witch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these plans are what your friend wants, then his wishes should be abided by. His plans are similar to what I would like. I do not want my body buried, nor do I want my ashes buried, I don't want my children to feel obligated to visit my graveside, I will be with them always in hearts and mind. I am having my ashes scattered at a place which holds very special memories to my husband and me. I do not want a religious ceremony, just a celebration of my life with friends and family saying a few bits if they want. And NO ONE is tio wear black!
2007-10-21 00:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your definition of immediately. Legally he might not have a choice. Depending on how he died an autopsy may be legally required (sometimes they are required even in a non suspicious death). But aside from any legal issues, I think his family & friends should remember and honor him the way he would have wished, so, yeah, sounds good.
2007-10-20 19:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by dolthara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to him what he wants done with the shell that contained his soul.
However, just a personal story, when my Dad died, It took me about 24 hours to get home. My mother sent his body off to be cremated before my oldest sister or I got there.
It was devastating not to be able to see him. I had many dreams of him being alive.
Funerals are for the living to come to grips with the death of a loved one. Perhaps you can convince him that it would be better for those who live if he just gave it 48 hours.
2007-10-20 10:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sister blue eyes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he's entitled to have his body treated exactly as he wants it to be treated after death. That includes any specific services he wants performed.
It doesn't matter what I, or anybody else, thinks of his plans. What matters is that the thought brings him comfort in life, and that the plans are respected after his death.
2007-10-20 10:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by prairiecrow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not something legally you're able to do to maintain them away. as much as I hate to assert it, those douchebags rather have the suitable to peaceably assemble and spout their lack of awareness. The police can't preclude them from doing so. the city can't lawfully preclude them from protesting the two, back they have an identical rights as you or I do. it would be large if we could purely shoot all of them interior the top, yet that ought to violate their ideal to not be shot interior the top at the same time as protesting. it may additionally enable some common experience to pass into their skulls, which may well be even worse to them.
2016-11-09 01:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by caton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋