a coworker and i were emailing each other and he said let's make luv and i said i wasn't sure. anyway later on in the day, he told me he wanted to touch me and me touch him. i then changed my mind and told him i wanted us to touch. after his shift was over, we met at the top floor of the library which is where we work and we tried find a spot, but he had bad breath and looked unclean. he could tell i wasn't sure and told me we shouldn't do it since i wasn't sure and that i wasn't into it. he just seemed really cool about it when i asked him if he was upset and he seemed laid back. he could tell i was nervous and confused and he kinda hugged me. the next day i emailed him from home saying that I want him and me to still do it, but then he said he couldn't do it since he was horny and that i should do it with some1 i luv since he has a gf . he said he was sorry and that he hoped i didn't feel used. was he using me? how should i move past this? is he into casual s**?
2007-10-20 10:35:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Errr...this is kind of odd...uh...really.
But, look. He has a girlfriend. And, he's kind of unkempt. He's off limits. Find a decent guy.
Oh, and what until marriage for that stuff. It's better that way.
2007-10-20 10:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥ Easily Amused Dijinn ♥~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, stay away from co-workers. You can get into all kinds of trouble, including sexual harassment. It happens all the time, where contact is initially mutual and then one person pisses the other one of, then the pissed off one goes to the boss and files a complaint. Then, it goes into your file and you can be branded for life. IF you get to keep your job, it just makes working there totally uncomfortable.
Secondly, if you thought he looked "unclean" and had bad breath, why would you want to do it LATER either? That sounds pretty ICKY to me. And then you find out he has a gf? Not only is he a pig who is unclean with bad breath, he's a pig for trying to do that with you when he has a gf.
Whether you were "used" or not, I can't tell you. I guess at LEAST he felt bad cuz of his gf and told you nevermind, but to get past it you just have to pretend that it never happened. Just blow it off and don't talk about it anymore. And for SURE, don't continue to send emails like the ones you have been exchanging.
Go for only a guy who is AVAILABLE next time and spare yourself heartache.
2007-10-20 10:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by YOUR MOM ™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, He wasn't using you. He was just Horny. Men get that way (women too). Your lucky he was gentleman enough to see how young you are, and backed down. Others might not have,then you really would have felt rotten. You shouldn't be playing those kind of games with people, or your really gonna find trouble,and not be able to get out of it. Just brush this incidence aside,and don't make anything out of it that isn't there. He sounds like a good person to have as a friend,and that's all. Be-Careful, your playing with hot fire! Next time you might really get badly burnt! Byee
2007-10-20 10:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sandyspacecase 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for giving a perfect example of why I always say that sex should only be for people who love each other.
You agreed to some sleazy rendezvous with a smelly co worker....of course he was using you.
Find someone with whom you share a common bond, enjoy each others company, get to know one another emotionally and mentally, develop romantic feelings for each other and THEN decide if you want to have sex.
Aren't you worth waiting for? I bet you are.
2007-10-20 10:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him! People like him dont matter just remember befor you do anything you should first get to know them well! Some guys are like that but not everyone is he shoudlnt have asked you to do that since he had a gf!
2007-10-20 10:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have wanted him from the jump with his stinking breath and and dirty a**** I hope you didn't want him anyway 4real 4real because from the sounds of it you was a booty call.His girl ain't doing her job if he wanted some butt from you. Dont sweat it girl you should always go with your first thought.He lame and nasty.Its too many pretty a**** dudes on this earth.Anyway don ever mix work with pleasure, it never works
2007-10-20 10:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by Monique W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he was feeling a littly horny at work and when he got home he realized he had a girlfriend! i say let that go he was just in the mood for some that day, and im glad you didn't do it!!
2007-10-20 10:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gotta Luv It! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would have had a one night stand with you, and then acted like it never happened again. Guys can do this. I have to be attached to the guy to do it. He , I think, was going to use you.... maybe he is attracted to you! But his answer back to you was stupid. He is an asshole!
You deserve someone who WANTS YOU ALL THE TIME!
2007-10-20 10:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Blonde08 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
File a Sexual Harassment claim against him with your HR Office.
2007-10-20 10:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gross. Don't talk to him anymore!! And tell him to get lost. He's got a gf and you're still considering sleeping with him?? BAD IDEA. He's totally using you!!!
2007-10-20 10:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by Freke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋