Is this families of sufferers of Alcoholism and Drugs?
2007-10-20 10:22:04 · 7 answers · asked by godbar 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is where the spouse/family is also supporting the drug or alcohol abuse even if not intentionally. Groups such as Al-Anon are for the family/spouse to take care of themselves and not aid the alcoholic/drug user in their addiction.
2007-10-20 10:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Co-dependancy is when two people both usually with an addiction of some sort 'feed' off each other. Eg the alcoholic blames the drug addict for their condition cos of all the stress etc, but if the drug addict starts to get clean the alcoholic will try and drag them down again cos s/he cant manage a 'normal' relationship. and vice versa. More complex than that really but thats just an example.
2007-10-20 10:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is when a person who is suffering from drugs or alcoholism manipulates another close person, a relative or friend or more, into helping them continue with their addiction and the others will do so in many ways. For instance, a wife who calls the boss to say her husband has the flu and can't make it to work, or vice versa, when he or she is actually drunk or out of it and can't go to work. . Doing most things for the person instead of letting them own up to whatever mess they have created. Covering up for them. In this way the person or people are being co-dependent. They can't seem to let go and free themselves of the "helping" the other party who wants and expects this from them. Maybe because of love, kindness, embarassment, or even Fear. They have AA, NA, GA and other types of self help groups for the addictions. For those who are living with one of them or involved in some way, there are Al-Anon, Al-Ateen and others. These meetings are attended by anyone who feels they are sick of living the way they do and need guidance as to how to let go. Not meaning, not caring anymore, but how to deal the right way with their loved one and more or less detatch from it all. Learn how to change their way of living. There are many people who have similar problems and when all get together and speak about it, things come together for many and they begin to live much better and happier lives. Learning how to deal and cope with the sick loved one, and yet being happy themselves too. These meetings are everywhere and one can look them up in a phone book.. Hope this explains it a bit.. :-)
2007-10-20 10:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a problem that can affect the relatives or caretakers of someone who has a dependency (it can be to drugs, gambling, etc) and it can affect their lives because they don't take as much care of themselves as they should, and need to feel in control of someone, even after the addicted person is in process of quitting. It is due to a fright that the person can fall into the addiction again.
The problem can make spouses of alcoholic people stay with them for example, instead of using their time and lives for themselves, because "they need them"
2007-10-20 10:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I've always thought it was (that is..since I heard the term)...It's someone who can't handle being on their own..they have to have someone around to depend on and help them. They don't like to be alone.Maybe I'm wrong.
EDIT..I was wrong..this is what Wiki says about it. You can google it.
Codependent people have a greater tendency to enter into relationships with people who are emotionally unavailable or needy. The codependent tries to control a relationship without directly identifying and addressing his or her own needs and desires. This invariably means that codependents set themselves up for continued unfulfillment. Codependents always feel that they are acting in another person's best interest, making it difficult for them to see the controlling nature of their own behavior
2007-10-20 10:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Deenie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a book i have called "Codependent No More, How to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself." by Melody Beattie. I bet you could find it in the local library.
It talks about characteristics,what it is, ...how to deal, stuff like that. i hope you like it. the best thing about books though is that you can always put it down if it's not for you or you think the person that wrote it is a quack!
2007-10-20 10:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by purplemonkey6662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its when two or more people depend on each other, having addiction in common.
2007-10-20 10:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by ξήĢŁĭŞĦ ŗǾşξ ©® ღஐღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋