I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years recently and I have been utterly depressed. I still love her, and I can't stop thinking about her. We broke up for complicated, but not unresolvable reasons. I have tried many times to tell her how much I love her and want us to work, but she just tells me she needs time to figure out what she wants. She does not know if she wants to be with me or to be single. What makes this hard is she used to be desperately in love with me to the point that she demanded me 24/7. Now she wants me to not talk to her. What should I do? How do I move on? I try to stay busy, but even when I'm busy I think about her. I feel so lonely. All I want is to be with her again. I cry every night and it is so hard not to contact her and tell her i love her. But I know I need to move on because this is not healthy. How can I force myself to feel better and shield myself from this pain? How does one forget the one they love and thought they were going to marry?
2007-10-20 09:59:08 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No advice is going to help but a little; you pretty much have to just keep on slogging through the grief and pain. If she is needing space, you must respect that.
Find other things to do -- work, exercise, take a class, research, volunteer. Find another channel for your energy.
Old sawhorse, but true enough: if you love someone, let them go. If they come back, they are yours. If they don't, they never were yours.
NB, if you're thinking of diving into a bottle, save that nonsense for one Saturday night at home and get beyond it. The relief is momentary and unprofitable.
This all probably brings no comfort because there is no comfort. But do look forward, better times are out there.
2007-10-20 10:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't forget the person you can only live with the pain and slowly get used to it. Am going through a hard moment too right now I tried everything from keeping myself busy to crying al day long but it's all the same at the end of the day, ur all alone with your thoughts. The worse is to be aware that the relationship couldn't work but you still cling to the hope of him/her comming back. I wish you all the luck
2007-10-20 17:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Midzbaby G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋