I have a problem. We may have had a couple of cards go missing in our wishing well after our wedding. I don't want to be rude and not thank somebody. What would be the proper wording for a thank you card to someone your not sure bought you a gift? I don't want to come right out and ask if they put a card in the well, but I don't want to be rude and not thank them either.
2007-10-20 09:08:59 · 12 answers · asked by cheree_1969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you could just thank them for sharing the day with you.
2007-10-20 09:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Thank you notes for any type of event should always be handwritten. As far as the "look" of the stationary, you can really do whatever it is you like. The wedding Thank You doesn't necessarily have to match the invitation, but it's generally cheaper to buy the thank yous when you purchase the invitations. It also lends a sense of cohesiveness when it all matches IMO. Just a word on pre-printed Thank You's. While there is nothing wrong with having something pre-printed, you really MUST write something personal in each and every one of the thank you notes (signatures do not count). I just received a wedding thank you 11 months after the wedding and all it said was "Love So and So." After the expense of getting to the wedding and the many gifts, we both felt a little slighted with the cop-out of a thank you!
2016-05-23 22:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can something like that go missing? Did you lose it? Was there a theft?
You don't send thank you notes for people who just attend-- you send thank yous for gifts or for generous gestures by people helping you plan or carry out the wedding.
It's not rude to not send a thank you for a gift you never received! If it was stolen or something, then the lack of your thank you card may be what is NEEDED to indicate to them that something went wrong-- so they can cancel the check or giftcard, research what went wrong, etc.
People also sometimes send gifts AFTER the wedding, so many gifts may not even have been sent to you yet.
2007-10-21 07:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen to I wrote thank you for coming to our wedding it was a blessing to have you to share our special day with us and thank you for the generous gift as well. Love
your name you may want to place in the card how much you appreciate them in addition proper manners never ever say thank you for the money it should be refereed to as a generous gift they will know they have given you money as most write personal checks these days. Some couples don't even bother to write thank you notes which is tasteless and rude I commend you for being so thoughtful.
2007-10-20 15:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't mention the gift and send the Thank You letting them know how you appreciate them for coming.
If they gave a card they'll probably contact you to make sure you recieved it. If they wrote a check when it's not cashed in a few weeks they will wonder and contact you as well.
If you honestly think this happened and have evidence I would have someone like your mom or the bridal party mention something next time they see them about how terrible it was that your wedding was robbed. You could also explain the situation and ask them yourself but you need to be extra carfeul about how you phrase it since it's absolutely possible they just didn't give you a gift.
2007-10-20 09:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
If you know who the people are whose cards might have gone missing, get somebody close to them to find out for you. They could casually say "what a neat wishing well. Did you put a card in or give them something else?" And then tell you the answer.
2007-10-20 10:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by noname 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Miss Manners is against sending vague "thanks for everything" cards to everybody; she says we should send personalized thanks that mention what the gift was what we like about it. But I think she'd make an exception now and then. Go ahead and send a "Dear Jan and Dave, Married life is wonderful. Thanks for everything. We look forward to seeing you soon. Best wishes, Hank and Marilyn" to these people. Better to send superfluous thanks than to omit expected courtesies.
2007-10-20 15:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
simply send cards saying, "we thank you so much for sharing in our celebration of love and commitment. your presence meant so much to us."
don't mention the gift at all. this way, you are still thanking them and you're making it seem as though the most important factor was their presence, not their presents.
2007-10-20 09:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Say, "We just want to thank you for helping make our wedding day so special. Everything you have done for us is appreciated.
The gift of your presence alone was enough."
2007-10-20 14:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by sacabeans00 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm personally thanking EVERYONE who showed up to attend the ceremony/reception.
Their presence is their present to me and my groom.
2007-10-21 02:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank everyone. You should anyway regardless if they dropped a card in the well.
2007-10-20 10:00:32 · answer #11 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋