Just found out that my bf used to c*m inside his ex just because she was on the pills. Well, we never use any birth control during sex. It's bad, but oh well. Anyway, I feel like I have to take pills now because I hate the thought that he cummed inside her but not to me. I don't know. I just feel like he had deeper connection with her because of that. Now, I feel that I'm obligated to take pills to pleasure him more. Help me understand that I shouldn't feel this way. I want to feel that it's not a big deal. He told me though that I don't have to do that and it has nothing to do with how much he loves me. He said he loves me more and that he would never obligate me to take pills. Then I told him I want to so he c*m inside me because I feel like he wanted kids with his ex but not with me. Then he said he never thought about that. He said he wants kids but not right now. He said I shouldn't worry about it. He said the only thing he wants from is to love him.
2007-10-20 08:05:06 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If thats what it takes for you to take birth control than do it.
and honey it's not his " connection" with the other woman he would cu m in anyone if he could.
2007-10-20 08:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The funny thing is that the vagina is only a so deep. That being said, the first couple inches is where we have feeling. SO that being said, it's not like you can feel when someone cums inside you anyway. I understand where you are comming from though, you want to have the same intimacy as he did with his ex. He has told you he loves you more. That should be a enough. Are you ready for all the responsibility that comes with that? I guess so if you aren't using any form of BC.
Even if he doesn't *** in you or not.. I urge you to take the pill simply because using nothing is pretty stupid. So it sounds like taking the pill would be a good thing..protection from pregnancy, and the ability to have him *** in you if you choose. With all that being said...if he wasn't using anything with his ex except the pill..has he been tested since he got with you?
2007-10-20 08:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by greyskymourning82 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The pill is effective against pregnancy, but not against STD's. Honestly, I'd still recommend using a condom to guard against that. If you have been in a totally monogamous relationship with each other for at least 6 months (a year is better) and have both been tested for STD's and are clean, then the pill would be enough to prevent pregnancy and he can ejaculate in you. Otherwise, I really would still use some kind of protection.
2016-03-13 03:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds a little foolish to be upset because he came inside his ex and not you...i wouldn't take that as a sign that he cared about the ex more. Most guys want to come in a girl b/c its more pleasure for them, i don't think there's a deep thought process that comes with that!!
Are you ready for kids though? Its not a funny thing to turn up pregnant b/c of feeling this way. A child is lifetime and you shouldn't want that only b/c he use to come in in his ex.
2007-10-20 08:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HIV, Herpes, Syphilis... You're saying, "It's bad, but oh well." to possible and very likely exposing yourself to diseases that will end or greatly diminish the quality of your life and affect your future sexual relationships forever (since your "boyfriend" clearly sleeps with all his females unprotected). So, go ahead continue having unprotected sex with a man who may or may not want to have kids with his ex or you, and just hope you don't end up with AIDS and pass it on to the children you all have no business having if you can't think a little more clearly that you are now!
You need to worry about getting some condoms instead of the pill. Comparing to your boyfriend's ex should be the least of your concerns.
2007-10-20 08:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lady G 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Four words "Insecurities will kill you"
Picture this, your with a guy who you love, he mentioned he c**med inside one of his ex's, then as soon as he said that, your insecurities came in. Dear he LOVES YOU! He's with YOU, so what if he c**med in one of his ex's? Your basically wanting him to c*m inside of because you want to be better then he's ex, but have you thought about actually having a baby? How hard it is to deal with them? If you two are married & plan on spending your life with him & you believe you can support a baby & afford one, then it's fine. I think you shouldn't risk having a child just because you want to be better then his ex. Basically what I'm saying is, really THINK about the future before you make this decision.
If you really want him to c*m inside of you because YOU want him to then alright, I'd recommend using birth control if you don't want to have a baby. I'm not sure if you aware but even with using birth control you are still at risk of becoming pregnant. Birth control gives you about a 70% chance of not getting pregnant, there's still that 30% chance you know?
Good luck with everything hun, let me know how everything turns out.
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2007-10-20 08:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Savanna A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You answered your own questions. It's easier to *** in a girl that is protected by birth control than not because she has a slimmer chance of getting pregnant. Honestly, if you want to get pregnant continue with what your doing but I don't think he wanted kids with his ex he just didn't have to use protection.
2007-10-20 08:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by kaybee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whoa! You want to risk getting pregnant when he's not ready, just to spite the memory of his ex, and soothe your jealousy about what you think he had with her? It doesn't matter how 'close' he was with her.... hes not with her anymore for more than just one or two reasons. He's with you now! You don't have to be jealous of a memory.. thats all she is to him, and I bet he doesnt even think about her unless you bring it up. Be happy with what you have, and don't worry about the 'deeper connection' he had with her... if it were really that deep, wouldnt he still be with her?
2007-10-20 08:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by boots6 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old are you to start with!
You don't use birth control of any sort, thats BAD, don't you care about Sexually Trasmitted Diseases then no!
You need to take control of yourself and take care of YOUR body if your sexually active in any way you need to take precautions.
If he penetrates but doesn't '***' inside you, you can still get 'PREGNANT'
2007-10-20 08:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by smaxsx1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What in the hell are you going on about???
He obviously didn't want kids with his Ex because SHE WAS ON THE PILL!!!
I would think that you would be smart enough to know that he may love you more than her because he is willing to not push you into doing something you are not ready for and he says he is willing to wait!
2007-10-20 08:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sage's Unicorn! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i honestly would feel the same way about my boyfriend if he would c*m inside his ex and not me...its not that i want kids now i would just unloved by him. Maybe he just realized that just b/c his ex was on the pill doens't mean it is preventing pregnancy. So, i think he just don't want an accidents.
2007-10-20 08:15:05 · answer #11 · answered by miss_renee_69 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋