i caught my daughter flashing her boobs during a concert and i talked to her about it. to my surprise she didnt even deny it. she said it was perfectly normal to do that. and my wife didn't even get mad at her. she said theres nothing wrong with it and that all teengers do it. is this something i sould be concerned about?
2007-10-20 07:44:26 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
YES!!!!!!!!!! You should be concerned, especially about the fact that your wife isn't! Have a sit down with your wife, and hopefully you can come to a mutual decision.
2007-10-20 07:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by HH6 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well, it all kinda depends. Allot of people do stuff at concerts, like, being less inhibited, and screaming, and acting silly, and that's normal. but yeah. How old is she? Cause if she was about 18 or so, then you can't really control her and tell her she can't. You can on the other hand, voice you're opinion on weather you believe it's right or not, just make sure if she blows you off, you let it go. But if she is younger, such as 16 or so, that's different. You can tell her she can't, and make sure you give her a reason why not to. Because it may seem harmless to her at the time, but tell her, it's not the way she should act. Don't make too big a deal about it though, and tell her it's just cause you love her, and want her to be safe. It's perfectly normal to be concerned about it, and I say, I would be too.. But if you're wife is o.k. with it, I would talk to her first, and tell her that it concerns you, and tell her why it concerns you. She might agree with you, and support you from then on. You should talk to your daughter with your wife, cause it will turn out better if she knows you both feel that way. if you talk to her when her mother doesn't believe the same thing, it won't work nearly as well.
Hope this helps..
2007-10-20 08:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cara R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you were right in addressing your daughter about it. Let her know that because everyone else is doing it does not mean it's for her to do also. With this one situation it may have been fine but for a woman her reputation can make her or break her at times and I would suggest to you that you tell her the reality of the wrold outside of being a teen ager. She would not want someone to snap her picture and use it against her or her reputation later in life. I know and understand that it's just her body which is nothing to be ashamed of but there is always a time and situation in which you do certain things.
keep calm- it was only one time that you saw it happen- maybe just her knowing that her parents are concerned she may think twice before doing it again- or flash with her bra on instead of the nude. don't fear that she will end up on girls gone wild just yet.
2007-10-20 07:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by shalirha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should be concerned. Talk to her seriously. Tell her that it's not appropriate at ALL to show anyone any part of her body regardless of where it is (yes, even a concert) and that she should save it for her husband someday. All the people I know that have flashed (yes, sadly, I have friends that have done it) do not have good lives, and they have very abusive boyfriends. She obviously doesn't respect herself.
Talk to her. Lay down the law. Even show her some true horror stories about girls who have flaunted themselves and gotten in trouble from it. Don't be scared to be the bad guy. Her future is on the line.
2007-10-20 07:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be upset. If she's 16-17 it's not really a surprise, but at 13-15 she shouldn't be doing that. What scares me is she says "it's normal". It may be normal, but isn't not right. If you're concerned have a talk with her and tell her that. Discipline her if neccesary, and your wife should back you up.
PS: Show your wife/daughter these answers. There are other kids saying it's not normal too. Maybe that will have an influence on your daughter.
2007-10-20 07:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes. As a parent...I would be extremely concerned. Your wife's opinion that "all" kids do it, is not true. I know a lot of kids and I don't know a single one that has done this. Both of my daughters are very modest with their bodies and will say that girls that do that sort of thing are "ho's" which is the general opinion of the kids they hang out with. I am not calling your daughter a "ho". Please know this. I am just saying you need to take a look at the kids she is hanging out with. Like attracts like. If she is so free as to flash herself in public, then this says she is free in other ways as well. I must say that I am a bit surprised that your wife is taking this so lax. It makes me wonder if perhaps she just wants to be a "friend" to your daughter and not the parent that she is.
2007-10-20 07:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by ceegt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is something wrong with it unless you live in a culture where that is normal. Sorry, but there are laws against women exposing their breasts in the U.S. and I would be seriously questioning the maturity level of a mother who was encouraging it.
I would tell my daughter how proud I am of her and that I didn't want people thinking she was trashy and cheap. What does any man think about those girls on the "Girls Gone Wild" videos? That they are trashy and cheap!
I am sure that your daughter would understand that you are concerned not only for her welfare, but also for the places those photos may turn up in the future.
2007-10-20 10:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see,your teenage daughter is flashing and your wondering if you should be concerned?Honestly,I think your a pre-teenage kid who flashed because your little friends were doing it and now your wondering if Mummy and Daddy secretly knows.
Kid,save yourself the trouble and do it when your the right age.
I'd say 16-17 and don't let your parents find out.Also,don't hang around with people you think will tell them.Find some friends who you don't have to show off for them to accept you.Srrsly.
2007-10-20 07:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by PumbaCheetagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should calmly talk to you wife, it seem that she did not instill such concerns. Than take that infomration and calml speak to your daughter from a mans point of view. I am from the South were people show ther boobs for beads. With camers on every phone also tell you daughter it was a second for her but a lifetime on cyber space.
2007-10-20 07:49:49 · answer #9 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be concerned about this. It doesn't matter if other teens are doing this it is a very wild thing to do. Why would someone want to show off personal things that should be hidden under their shirt? It should only be reserved for her future husband. I'm sorry not sure how to explain my opinion of this but I do think that her conduct was wrong.
2007-10-20 07:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by suzyqnelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, teenagers copy others that do outrageous things, and which is not necessarily the right thing to do. I would be more than concerned if my daughter did such a thing. Its appalling and not clever, also not lady-like (as they say). and would not put her in a very 'good light' with others. The youth of today, seem to think it is something real clever in revealing all. When she gets older (I assume she is a teenager) and want to maybe settle down with someone, I doubt she will be seen as 'good material!' Men do not like women who parade themselves especially one of their own, they only like to lear at 'others', that is ok. Ground her for a few weeks!!
2007-10-20 07:56:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋