He's irresponsible, we broke up so many times because of this and he always says he'll change he's good for a little while and he goes right back to his ways. He likes to go and do as he wishes, if he feels like going to a club or a bar and drink his *** off he will, i have no say, and he smokes pot, sometimes he does coke and extasy too. . . he says im askin him to change and im motherin him and as a girlfriend i should accept him for who he is and be cool. . . he says im too controlling too. he said he wants to live his life but wants me at the same time cuz he loves me but its so hard for me to deal w those things when he does them, it bothers me a lot. should i leave him ? he told me no guy will be with me cuz im too controlling
2007-10-20 07:34:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone better. This guy has no idea what he is doing or wants to do in life and all he cares about is partying.
Dont waste your life away on this jerk, find someone who shares your same interests and you will be happier.
2007-10-20 07:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Siddles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want to stay with an irresponsible, drunken, doped up looser like this? Do you really hate yourself so much that you feel you need this piece of garbage and that this is the best you can do?
He obviously doesn't know what love is because in love you give a little and take a little and meet somewhere about half way.
This looser wants his cake and eat it too! He wants to do as he pleases and then get laid by you when he's high and horny and then when he's done with you, go off and do as he pleases again! You're not even good enough to go out with and spend money on!
As the saying goes, "drop this zero and get yourself a hero"!!, Not Tomorrow, TODAY!
Don't waste one more minute on this person...it is a person isn't it?
Don't worry about it, there are plenty more men out there that will truly love you And make you happy; just consider this one was just one more frog you had to kiss to get to your Prince!
Good Luck!
2007-10-20 07:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sage's Unicorn! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have fallen in love with, is your boyfriend's potential to be a good man. You're ignoring his lifestyle choices hoping that he will change. By him telling you that you'll find no one else -- he's trying to control you into putting up with his drug using and prevent you from dumping him. He's also telling you that no matter what you say -- the drugs + alcohol are more important than you.
Let me tell you something. You cannot change a man. This is what you have to do, find a man who does not do drugs and respects you enough to spend quality time with you -- not run off every chance he gets to a bar. Your boyfriend is wrong. You can fall in love someone else who doesn't do drugs. Rather than wasting time forcing a man to live up to your expectations or who wants you to lower your standards -- find someone who already meets them. There are plenty of guys out there who don't use.
2007-10-20 07:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I have a three-step simple solution for your problems.
1) Make a gun with your fingers so that your thumb and index are forming an 'L' shape.
2) Show this sign to him, perhaps by putting it against your forehead. Tell him xio said hi.
3) Dump him.
PS Plenty of upstanding responsible guys that don't view basic elementary expectations to be 'controlling', don't do drugs and drink responsibly, if at all.
2007-10-20 07:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First stop listening to him. Look at what he is doing it is a from of self destruction. And he will not change. He has proven it time and time again.
Walk away from him and that kind of life as you will never be happy nor will he try to clean his act up.
You most likely are "controlling" in his eyes because you are trying get him to see the error of what he doing to himself.
Telling you that no other guy would want to be with you is a form of controlling you to stay with him. Don't listen to that kind bull.... Stand up and walk away and never look back.
2007-10-20 07:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Butterfly, Dear you deserve better ! People only change when they feel the need,and he doesn"t. Breaking up may be hard to do but trust me it is the right thing for you !
2007-10-20 07:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The life before marrige is more diffrent than after marriage.if u really love him try to convince him and take him away from drugs.if u failed to do so,u should leave him...its better to cry before marrige than after.ne way,hope u would find the best way to make your life.cheers!!
2007-10-20 07:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by fire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you do love him for sure... but he seems young... how old is he? The question is can you wait for him to grow up or not?
2007-10-20 07:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by anan21uk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best solution is to kill him in his sleep. It makes things so much easier!
2007-10-20 07:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Psycho B!tch 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
honey, this relationship will not work for you in the long run,
Sorry
2007-10-20 07:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Curious Star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋