One of my friends who has been upset lately because of her boyfriend who went away to college had cheated on her, recently started seeing a new guy. I was happy for her since she deserves it but then I found out the guy was my ex boyfriend that I dated a couple of years ago in 9th grade. I was so pissed off! Because I don't think friends are supposed to date each other exs I thought it went without saying. I have a boyfriend now but I can't help but being upset about this espeically when I saw him with her at the teen club we go to on Saturday nights. He was hugging and kissing her and it upset me. I couldn't even concentrate on my own boyfriend who got pretty upset with me about it and accused me of still liking him but I really don't since it's been almost two years and I haven't even seen him since he transferred to another school in the county last year. But I think she was wrong to date him and my boyfriend has no right to be mad at me for being upset. Am I right or not?
2007-10-20 06:47:42 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are wrong on this 'cos
people you love, just found eachother, seems get
a life with eachother. that's good thing.
When you get upset seeing them just ask yourself
Do i love these people or i just love my on desire of
possesion or ideas? if there is any of pure love in your mind or heart for them, you should not feel angry about it.
don't set your burdens on them.
if you can't loose your anger say to yourself: hey they are happy people! the more happy, satisfied pearsons around me the better and calmer life i can get. Don't push people away from yourself unneccassarily.
just take it easy
2007-10-20 07:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are wrong, but I can see why you think you are right. I would sympathize with you for being mad at your friend if you still liked him, but you said you don't. I also doubt your friend knew you would be so upset if she dated your ex, so maybe you should let her know how you feel. But I still don't think she should break up with him because you and your ex broke up a few years ago. You and your ex didn't work; let your friend see if she can make a connection with him. Of course, if he abused you, then yea you should butt into then budding relationship. Otherwise, let it go. I doubt you thinking that friends shouldn't be dating exs is worth more than your friendship with her.
I can see why your boyfriend was upset. You were focusing on your friend and your ex and not paying any attention to him. How would you feel if he was just focusing on his ex-girlfriend all evening and ignoring you?
2007-10-20 06:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong - it was two years ago and you have a new boyfriend - get over it, they are free to date anyone and your boyfriend DOES have a right to be mad at you for not paying attention to him and dwelling on your ex - be happy for what others have NOW and that you have a new boyfriend - just because you dated someone two years ago in 9th grade does not make him off limits for mutual friends for the rest of his life.
2007-10-20 06:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by roppin r 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine it may be awkward but in all honesty, he's your ex and that means he is now available and therefore there is nothing wrong (in my opinion) with your friend dating him. I am surprised though that she didn't tell you first, if she knew you'd dated him...just out of courtesy and to gauge how it might affect you. Perhaps if you spoke to her about it she might tone down the affection with him, when she's in your company, until you get used to it. I also think you are being unfair on your current boyfriend as it would certainly make him question your feelings for him....that's understandable. Imagine how you would feel if the tables were turned....wouldn't you be concerned about his feelings for his ex and whether he really has strong enough feelings for you, if he can't accept his friend dating a past love. It sounds like you need to move on, and focus on what you have instead of what you don't, or you may lose your friend and your boyfriend...and for what, a past relationship that didn't work.
2007-10-20 07:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Gubbins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very in poor health mama puppy is an incredibly worrying difficulty. And I have an understanding of your anger at one of the crucial solutions that you just acquired. It is common so that you can desire to vent again to those individuals a few of your anger and frustration. So, attempt to stay calm and preserve your consciousness for your puppy & puppies. Don't permit this cloud your precise target - a healthful puppy. And sure, I could love to grasp this results. Kudos to you on your rapid motion in taking good care of 7 puppies! It is not convenient! I want that extra humans could discover that there are instances that stump even the first-class of vets. While the calicum hassle is essentially the most normal with those signs, it isn't the one purpose. And your determination to this puppy and her puppies could be very, very admirable. So, you realize that you're responding to this concern within the first-class technique feasible. You are doing all you'll do in an incredibly problematic difficulty. Let God kind out the relaxation. Peace
2016-09-05 17:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all take a deep breath and calm yourself. Seriously, think about why its upsetting you and be honest to yourself about it. Everyone deserves a chance at finding someone special, and you have just have to deal with the fact that your friend found your ex. Its tough but hey its life. And your boyfriend is upset most likely b/c he is a little hurt. I mean you were to hung up on your ex to pay attention to him....what your friend does should not ruin your relationship!
Be careful
2007-10-20 06:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ammie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow . . . that's a wide span from 9th grade to college. That's a lot more than a couple of years ago. I think you're overreacting unless after all these years, you still have some feelings for your ex. If you've moved on. . . I don't see what the problem is.
2007-10-20 06:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things like this are really hard. Yes it does go without saying, but there are exceptions. Your friend should have told you who it was especially if she knew you dated him, but on the other hand if your no longer in love with him, let her have him. Friends are for a life time, but men come and go. If you are in love with the boyfriend you have now, just be happy for your friend and the relationship with you have with your guy.
2007-10-20 06:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by collctor2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong! Your friend has the right to date whom ever she wants and so does your ex. I don't blame your bf for being upset with you. You should be happy for your friend. Your to young to let little things like this upset you. Its not like he is your ex-husband or something.
2007-10-20 06:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Redneck5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be against you, but you're really wrong for that. Look, if you still had feelings for him, which you say you don't, then you would have the right to be mad. But, you said so yourself, you don't have feelings for him. Don't keep your friend from being happy. Be a good friend and step aside.
2007-10-20 06:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Nena (: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋