how do i know if my boyfriend really means it when he says he loves me? how do i know hes not using me?
2007-10-20 06:25:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't love him. If you did you would be willing to take the risk. It isn't he who is to be doubted, but you yourself.
2007-10-20 06:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is way too complex for a simple answer, but here is one thing to consider (although not the only thing): WHEN does he say he loves you? Is it just when he is "making out" with you? Or does he also say he loves you in completely non sexual contexts?
Another thing to consider is whether he makes sacrifices for you, as in giving up his plans in order to do something for you. Again, are these "sacrifices" without a physical pay-off for him?
2007-10-20 13:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an easy one. . . .
As long as you don't WITHHOLD SOMETHING FROM HIM until he says "I love you" . . then you'll know he means it.
. . . and as long as you don't PREFER that he EVER lies to you about ANYTHING and don't try to "punish" him for telling you the TRUTH, then you would not be giving him any reason to lie.
BUT WOMEN ASK MEN TO LIE -->> ALL THE TIME.
And I will PROVE it.
EXAMPLES:
• If a woman asks "Do you love me??". . .. .
And her man says "Well, no I don't love you yet, but so far you seem really nice" . . . . he KNOWS he will NOT be rewarded for the truth (and there will be no Sex tonight) even though what he said was TOTALLY NON-OFFENSIVE and COMPLETELY TRUE.
• Woman asks "Were you checking out that other girl??"...
If a man says "Yeah. So??" . . . . he KNOWS he will NOT be rewarded for the truth. She will start a fight tonight unless he says "No babe. You're the only woman in the world I ever notice."
Please.
• If a woman asks "How do you like my new haircut??". . .. .
And her man says "Well, since you asked, I preferred your hair before." . . . . he KNOWS he will NOT be rewarded for the truth (and there will be NO Sex tonight) even though what he said was TOTALLY NON-OFFENSIVE and COMPLETELY TRUE.
In these mere 3 examples, the woman is practically BEGGING her man to lie to her.
. . . and the seemingly endless list goes on.
As long as women continue to PREFER that men LIE to them (or tell them what they want to hear) in order to APPEASE them, then they have no business questioning a man's honesty.
"Tell me what I want to hear - or else" . . . doesn't give any woman the right to call her man a LIAR.
EVER.
So as long as that's not what YOU are doing,
Then you've got no reason to question his motivations,
And your relationship will have a chance.
Cheers.
:)
2007-10-20 13:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
see how he cared about ur small details of lyf and do 1 thing stop communicating wid him and see if he comes back 2 u. but still its very hard 2 know a true love ne 1 can ve a split personality
2007-10-20 13:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Invader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he'll want to be around you all the time, try not to hurt or upset you in any way, want to do things with you and he pays, calls you, there to comfort you when you get upset. He's using you when he wants you to pay for everything, talks bad about you, only wants to be around you when you have money or is buying him things, don't care about your feelings, embarrassed to be seen with you in public.
2007-10-20 13:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the little things they do, not what they say.
2007-10-20 13:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by carna69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋