to be getting harder. She was only 31
2007-10-20 05:54:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Randy - I know my pain cannot compair to yours. I am so sorry for your loss
2007-10-20 07:14:01 · update #1
Please remember that everybody grieves differently and for different amounts of time. No one person can get you past the hurt of a lost, but you. Even when you think it's gone, a picture, song, or saying will always be a reminder. Just allow yourself to always reflect on all of your memories. It will get easier. Smile when you feel like smiling and cry when you feel like crying. Your best friend would want you to continue to live life. Do something special for yourself in her memory or maybe go someplace that the two of you used to go and write about it in a book.
2007-10-20 08:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lishia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it takes a year to fully go through the grieving process because you hit every important date like their birthday, your birthday, Christmas etc.
Three months is not long at all. It's barely even time to get used to the idea that they're not around. Everyone is different. I lost a friend to cancer earlier this year and while it was really hard at first, I don't really think about it much any more. On the other hand, when my mom died, I was crying every couple of days for almost three years!
Death and grieving is a weird thing. Don't worry about what's normal or how anyone else feels. Your relationship with her was unique so your greiving will be too. Do what you need to to get through the pain. Usually talking about your feelings with someone and letting yourself bawl your eyes out is the best thing.
2007-10-20 14:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't say how sorry I am, but I know that it is a sad thing and an even harder thing to let someone go its impossible...my Grandmother died a year ago this month and I swear to you not a day has gone by that I haven't thought about her...there have been many days in which I could just burst into tears for her in my mind all I could say is a year ago ...things like I wish she was here with me...but then I realized she was in pain and her time was up just like everything and everyone in this world we only pass through which is somewhat a good thing because or world isn't as beautiful as we think things are happening everyday that are beyond me...in the Bible is says that there is a season for everything a season for mourning and a season for happiness after each there is light ...there is always light because there is always God he is awesome
Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted...Smile and I pray you strength in this troublesome time
2007-10-20 10:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just depends like I lost my uncle a couple years ago and it is still hard on me til this day but you know that matters most is to never forgot that person always carry the love for that person in your heart and the memories in your mind. Every where you go its always something that reminds you of that person. Another thing do something in the name of person whether its completing a goal that you gave up on along time ago, helping out the communtiy, just anything. So when that person looks down on you from heaven they will say I knew you was strong and even though im gone you knew how to carry on. Always remember to live life as a blessing. I HOPE FOR THE BEST FOR YOU AND SORRY ABOUT YOUR LOSS.
2007-10-20 06:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by Shy B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your friend. God rest her soul peacefully.
I think it is important to separate the following in your mind:
grief and remembrence.
Your friend woldn't want you to continue to be sad and to feel like this all the time. Your getting past the grief, the sadness does not mean you will be forgetting her. You will keep her in your heart and soul...Go on with your life.
My grandma passed away 2 years and a half ago. Still hard for me to believe..it's like she's gone on a looong trip. I believe that I will see her again when I die. I think about her a lot -so even though I went on with my life, doesn't mean I have forgotten her.
2007-10-20 09:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes quite a while. It gets a little less painful as time goes by especially if you allow yourself to think and cry (if you want to) about what this loss means to you. The time table varies for people. In time, you will be able to think about it and perhaps talk about it without being devastated.
2007-10-20 14:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can read (respect) all the answers. i believe that some of the answers are good and some are bad. my daughter was diag. with cancer, and i said to her you know where the healer is, my mom was diag. with cancer in her stomach. i asked the lord people's to help me pray for this petition's. it must of taken 1 to 2 weeks to let us know that they don't no more cancer. if you don't trust on the lord whom will you trust today. read job 2:7- Satan give fever. and etc. read 2 chron. 16:12/13- he trust on doctor but read Isaiah 38:1-9 it tells us that god heal him and gave him 15 yrs more. god bless you
2007-10-20 09:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by levineeddie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife died 14 months ago, and I am not past the grief. I doubt that I ever will be past it. She was my best friend too.
2007-10-20 06:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Randy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try the organization Grief Share. It is helping me!
2007-10-20 08:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by LJC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning , i'm very sorry for you, your loved ones , and your lonely kitty. it constantly sucks dropping a puppy { pal } . I additionally desire you weren't utilising " Iams " or the different of the recalled puppy foodstuff ! if so , end !!!! between the optimum indications is kidney failure. why does no longer or no longer that's okay to get a sparkling cat NOW ? i be attentive to you sense such as you would be betraying the "lost " kitty, yet you're no longer ! He does no longer want you to be unhappy ! while my bunny died it became sadder observing the empty cage, than it became getting used to our new bunny ! besides the certainty that all of us ignored Drew -undergo very plenty the void and silence the place his cage became , became the worst ! It had to be crammed ! { the void besides through fact the cage } actual additionally of the void interior the middle of your latest cat ! He additionally desires companionship ! Get yet another cat as quickly as achieveable !Rescue one from the shelter ! besides the certainty that ther became no longer something you should do on your unfavourable kitty, there is something you're able to do for yet another kitty who could face life in a shelter without love or worse, being " positioned down " through fact of overcrowding or decrease than investment. do no longer think of of it as a " alternative " think of of it as an addition to the kinfolk, which will carry years of affection and entertainment , no longer purely for you and your loved ones yet your different cat besides ! you do no longer could desire to end mourning your loss to strengthen your love in the direction of yet another ! Your cat is in heaven , and there is no unhappiness in heaven ! purely excitement , { nicely , mice, fish , and entertainment !! } You and your cat will discover convenience in sharing love with a shelter cat whose life you would be very much recuperating !considering the fact that your cat won't be able to ask questions and seek for convenience such as you , he relies upon on you for plenty of affection and the addition of his "New chum " have confidence me , that's greater useful than observing that 2d " empty bowl " and " forgotten toys " lower back , sorry on your loss, and that i'll desire for you ALL to administration and heal !
2016-10-13 08:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by dotel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋