Me and my boyfriend were really good friends before we got together. After getting together (like the first week) we had sex for the first time. We have had sex several times since then. Just yesterday, after having sex, he tells me that we should cool the sex for a while but couldnt give me a reason why. I asked him if he may be feeling guilty because thats all we do when he comes over. He said that it was part of it. He then left within that hour, which made me feel like I did something wrong. Later on we were on the phone and the topic came up again. I asked if there was another reason then the one that I gave him. He told me that he has more fun with me when we arent having sex. That he isnt ready for the responsibility of what comes along with sex. Also that he feels pressured to have sex. The whole pressure thing confuses me because he is the one that wants it everytime he comes over. I dont mind not having sex for a while, its not everything. I'm so confused...What do you think?
2007-10-20 05:41:40 · 3 answers · asked by whisper_in_the_wind1186 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well maybe he actualy cares for ya and dosent want you getting preagnet and well it is more fun spending time talking to eachother then having sex day after day
2007-10-20 05:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be trapped into feeling like that's what he's supposed to want (having sex), therefore the pressure he's feeling in self-induced. (That's a lot more common in the guy world than you may realize). It's encouraging that he acknowledges enjoying your company more when you're not having sex (which DOESN'T mean you're not good at it, it just means he genuinely values the friendship you two have). This doesn't mean you have to stop altogether (or maybe it does), but it definitely means he cares about you. That's a good place for intimacy to grow from.
2007-10-20 12:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was just concerned about the responsiblity that comes with it. or
try to find out the deeper reason of sudden change.maybe its just his way to get out of the realtionship coz he realized he dont love u as a lover but he loves u as a friend.
2007-10-20 12:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by miss taken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋