He doesn't yell at me, at least not in the sense of him raising his voice. He just...get's mad at me, get's mean, or ignores me. When I confronted him about that, he told me that he didn't mean to hurt my feelings and that he was just in a really bad mood.
How can I react to that?
2007-10-20 05:10:45 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys are usually direct in that sense. Some guys sometimes will get a little edgy sort of like guy PMS. It's totally harmless and they don't take it personally. Just react to it with a smile. Give him space to breath but at the same time you can tell him you don't like that, when he's in a good mood.
2007-10-20 05:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by jeseeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but no guy should take his anger out on a girl even if it isn't on purpose. Whenever a boyfriend somewhat raises his voice to me I just walk off, because if he's getting mad and mean he could potentially hurt you.
I was in a relationship like that and the guy litterally abused me and after I dumped him he started hurting my friend.
You need to find out why he's in a really bad mood and perhaps talk about it with him, before he starts busting out with words and mean actions.
2007-10-20 05:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider reading the resource link I have provided below.
When someone has hurt our feelings the loving response needs to be a sincere apology with a plan on how to make the situation better so that it does not happen again.
Every one has bad moods, but that does not excuse bad behavior.
Without knowing your age or the nature of this relationship, I really could not tell you what reaction would be appropriate, but I certainly do encourage you to:
1) Learn more about these kind of relationship conflicts, and
2) decide how you choose to allow people to treat you. (In other words, what is your bottom line with tolerating bad behavior)
Good Luck !
Sincerely,
Loretta
www.lifebeyondlupus.com
2007-10-20 05:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Loretta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly believe you should consider these reactions as red flags of possible future abuse situations. If he is not mature enough to discuss with you in a reasonable and sane manner what it is that is upsetting him then he has some issues. Perhaps you should consider dropping him off at the curb and go out and find another male who will treat you with respect and be able to communicate his emotions and feelings with you, and not bottle them up and have them possibly explode later.
2007-10-20 05:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy has a problem, and it will only escalate.
Best to move on.
I wouldn't want to take the chance of this kind of crap and then an apology. That is BS.
Next thing he will be saying he is sorry for the black-eye.
2007-10-20 05:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by outtahere2day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's being verbally abusive. When he starts to be verbally abusive leave. Leave the room, the apartment, the situation. You don't need to be subjected to that. Partners in a relationship need to respect each other. Talk about the problem when he's in a better mood.
2007-10-20 05:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Momsdiamonds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you don't appreciate it and you understand that he didn't mean to hurt you and that he was in a bad mood but he shouldn't take it out on you...he should talk to you...with you. not at you... and it's something that you are willing to try and discuss...remain calm. IF he cares, he'll talk with you, he may find it uneccessary but you need to talk about it with him. This is effecting you emotionally and you shouldn't have to deal with that... talk to him and tell him how you feel...good luck!
2007-10-20 05:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Shhbob 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit back and think is this the person i want to spend the rest of my life with. do i really want to deal with walking on eggshells for the rest of my life. or if we have little dudes do i have to protect them from him.. This is what they call verbal abuse. if you can deal with it then stay if not .... Grasshopper it is now time for you to leave.
Make the right decision to be happy
it isnt all about the sex it is about life
Good luck
curtdude
2007-10-20 05:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space when he gets in those bad moods. My b/f gets that way too and I just try to stay out of his way. Usually that works better than bugging him with questions as to why, why are you in a bad mood?
2007-10-20 05:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the same way. All you can do it be patient and tell him as tactfully as possible he isn't being nice. It's messed up but we hurt the ones closest to us the most. If he is consistently like this get away from him.
2007-10-20 05:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by Codynova 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋