Is there a way to remove the monotony of a relationship so that partners keep interested in each other for ever ! I mean the feeling of excitement ... the feeling one gets from being on a roler coaster ... does it have to go away or are there ways to keep the fire burning ?
2007-10-20 05:02:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That could be true if there was nothing more engaging between the two people than the sex, but if that's not the case (that is, if the two people have worked to build a substantial, lasting connection between them) then neither of them should lose interest in the other. Exciting though the "roller coaster" effect may be, humans aren't meant for continuous durations of "peak" existence...we'll mentally and/or physically breakdown. So, what has to fill the gaps in between those times of sheer exhileration is the genuine love and understanding that's been cultivated along the way. That keeps the fire burning.
Also worth noting: It may not be a matter of his having lost interest in her as not EVER having been interested in her in the first place (except as a vehicle for sexual congress....that's the danger of having sex too soon with a person. Give yourself time to see what the other person is really about before making yourself that vulnerable. This goes for guys and ladies alike.)
2007-10-20 05:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is where the expressions:
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
and
Why buy the loaf when you can get the slices for free?
Yes, there are ways to keep the fires burning. But if you are constantly looking for a 'feeling of excitement', you won't understand.
I have been married for 19 years. Neither of us has ever fooled around. There have been lots of ups and downs, but we have never stopped having sex. But we have had to accept that sometimes we'll have some off times.
Sure, some men lose interest in a girl. But that is because there is only one thing they value about her. Part of having an exciting relationship is that it is more than just sex. But if you want that kind of relationship, you will probably have to be the kind of woman that a man who wants more than just sex would want. And that isn't the kind of girl who is always giving herself away.
I think you are mistaking having a great relationship with having permanent, great, exciting sex. If you really want a great relationship, you are going to have to stop having sex and actually bother to get to know and judge someone's character, including your own.
2007-10-20 05:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not every relationship will always be hot and exciting and its all about the 2 of you working together to make it stay that way. Use your imagination, think of spontenaous things to try, just dont forget to work on it, like a job, thats the only way you become good at it. If someone loses interest in you a few times after having sex with you, then they were only in it for the sex, not for you
2007-10-20 05:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jersey Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 00:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they don't ALWAYS loose interest after having sex a few times, you have to find someone that you trust completely and able to try new things, and even when you don't try different things it still can feels different every time, you just have to find someone that the love and trust is mutual. But some guys that are dogs can but that's just them
2007-10-20 05:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kristina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends...if the girls doesnt mean to the guy so much than he loo0ses interest after few times having sex,but if the boy loves her,than he can be interessted just more,not less... =)
2007-10-20 05:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope it aint true.. Just takes once.
2007-10-20 05:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by sirdouglas527 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it means they re cheap and useless but am not
2007-10-20 05:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by natasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋