There is a special event going on nov 11th for wedding dreses. The dresses are worth $400-4,000 and they are all on sale for $250 for the one day. I asked my maid of honor 2 go and i got no responce (text message). I asked again and she said "whos going? and i have to see if i have work" The thing is she works at cvs and if she needs to go out with other friends she takes the day off she even lied and said her grandmother is sick once to go out with a friend. So I told her she should switch days now, way in advance so its not a problem. she never text back so then I said did u get my message. She said "listen i will try to go it i don't have work" I totally understand she has work but this is a one time thing its very important. and i feel like she just doesnt want to go. Do u think she should change her work day ONCE for me? Now she is going let me know the very last minute because she wont know if she has work until that week! isnt that mean of her?
2007-10-20 04:57:02 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
this is a wedding dress sale. There is no bridesmaids dresses that day. So its not even for her but I need someone to go with me to help me put the dress on and now how to lace is up the day of the wedding.
2007-10-20 05:13:47 · update #1
Just a question, do you think maybe it could be an issue with having the money to buy a dress if she goes. Just thought maybe there was another issue and she is blaming it on work.
2007-10-20 05:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Stephie13 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Usually the MOH is pretty excited about the whole thing as well. It doesn't sound like she really wants anything to do with it. It doesn't really sound like she's even being a good friend. If it isn't oo late..I would ask someone else to share the enjoyment with you...You need someone to be there for you...not cause you more stress! I hope you have someone else..or you two can figure out something if she is actually a good friend. GL:)
2007-10-21 13:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she can either go get the dress for $250 or she'll have to pay at least $400 for the dress when it's not on sale. You're only wanting for her to get the best deal that she can. If the reason why she doesn't want to go is because she longer wants to be a bridesmaid -- insist she tells you now so you can have someone else be one and get the dress instead. Confront her now before the wedding gets too close!
2007-10-20 05:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Sorry, but if she needs to work that day, that trumps helping you trying on dresses for your wedding. Just b/c she lied once and played hooky does not mean she should have bad work habits a second time. As for her juggling her schedule or trading with someone else, generally that inconveniences people and should be reserved for times that's really needed: emergencies, doctor's appointments, etc. Please don't make negative judgments about your friend b/c she chose work over helping you try on dresses.
Perhaps your mother, aunt, another friend, etc. can go with you.
Overall, I agree with Kimberly's points, but not the nasty manner in which she delivered them.
2007-10-20 11:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not ask your mom to go with you. Or instead of going to that thing try Davidsbridal. I know they are in most states. when I picked out my dress. One of my bridesmaids went with me. When I went back to pay for it. My future mother in law and sister in law went. Because of the hours my matron of honor worked at the time.
You sould like bridezilla. Get over it go look for gresses when she can. Screw this sale thing
2007-10-21 02:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by pandazoogurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a little bit unfair of you to ask her to take time off of work, but this is a big day for you. I think the least she could do would be to make up an excuse. Having said that, there may be a legit reason that she can't call in sick. Maybe she's used all of her sick days up, or maybe her boss has caught on to the fact that she is out a lot. Talk to her about it, and express your concern. :-) good luck.
2007-10-20 05:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Go with your mom.
MOH is not required to go with you as it is just your bridal gown.
I would understand your situation if it were for bridesmaids/MOH dresses, but it is not.
You could also get the assistance from the shopkeeper, and then when you go for sizing/final sizing ask the MOH to go so she can see how to zip you up.
2007-10-21 02:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your on your way to being a Bridezilla. Sorry but since the gown is for you and not for her you are being unrealistic to expect her to drop everything for you. Perhaps there's someone else you can ask to go with you? One of your other bridesmaids perhaps? Besides, there will be someone in attendance at the store who can help plus you're have fittings, etc. that your friend may be able to attend.
2007-10-20 06:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well aren't you a selfish, demanding piece of work. The rest here are taking your side but I am going to defend hers.
Anyone who works in retail knows 1. How difficult it is to get time off and 2. How far a paycheck doesn't go. You, my dear, are being incredibly selfish and acting as though she owes you her life. She doesn't. She's busy with things that frankly, are none of your business. Yes, she's the maid of honor and I agree she should be there to support you. But in no way does that mean she's there to cater to your every whim.
Your wedding day is important to YOU and your groom. Others are excited sure, but the day has no real importance to anyone else. So no, she shouldn't change her work day ONCE for you. There are plenty of people at these bridal shows that can assist you with trying on a dress. It may not be ideal but your maid of honor is essentially trying to give you the heave ho...and I can understand why.
Please, step down from your princess pedestal and get over yourself. You're a bride. Not a queen. No one owes you their time or life for YOUR day.
2007-10-20 05:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
It appears that maybe she is backing out of the position that you asked her to fill. Your maid of honor, should acknowledge the responsibilities that come with that position, such as helping you or accompanying you to dress sales, and fittings. If you are still having problems, maybe sit down and have a lunch or dinner meeting with her, in which you address the problems you and her are having. It is possible she didn't anticipate all of the work that comes with being a maid of honor, and she may wish to relinquish her position. Either way, you need to express how you feel to her, and if she is unwilling to do the job you hoped for her to fill, then you should ask her to maybe be a bridesmaid instead, or just ask her to step down all together and find another friend or relative who is willing to help you take that position. Being a maid of honor takes a lot of work, and it seems that she does not want to be a part of it.
Good Luck!
2007-10-20 05:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋