my husband is telling me that i have to help with baby while hes at work. understandable. and that i have to wake up every time at night to help with baby too and let him sleep and hes isnt to help at night at all ""because hes tired"" and he has to sleep so he can do his job or he cant do it waa waa waa. i want to know how many of you out there atleasts wakes up durring the night even just for a little bit to help the stay at hom mom? to me all he is is worthless now because hes here but he deserve not to help caz he works.
2007-10-20 04:47:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh, i forgot to mention i dont sleep at all. i have insomnia but can sleep alone for only 3 hours my body allows. imfixing on trying to make a sqedual but my brain is fryed i also have post satum depression and already have panic dissorder than my pill help just a little. he knows my problems and set backs but he doesnt care at all he acting like he doesnt need to help with baby at all. i dont sleep at all at all at all at ******* all. why does he act like hes some type of royalty. every on treating me like **** i also have a c section wound that got infected so im on heavey paiin killler called hydromorphone. but no matter how sleepy i get i dont sleep caz he snores and pushes and kicks i cant sleep anyways it been longer than a year i had a atleast 6 hour sleep im sleep deprived he knows all this problems. my c section wound is open and needed to be stuffed with gauze twice a day with bleach water but yet he and everyone is acting like i gave a vagina birth and that im fine um no ..
2007-10-20 06:02:37 · update #1
Uh, how come his 40 hour a week job is called "full time" and your 24/7 job isn't?
Seems to me your job is fuller than his by a LOT.
You're buying into his bogus concept of his "helping" you.
Was he in the room at the time of conception? Is it not his child? Does he believe that you never need any sleep at all?
Maybe you could leave him with the baby one weekend day for long enough for him to realize how hard your job is.
How is it that he thinks that he, with his 40 hour a week job, with weekends off makes him more tired than you, with your 24/7 job with no time off at all?
grrrrr
2007-10-20 07:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed at home while my boys were babies so I never expected help at night unless I was sick. After all, I could catch a nap during the day when the babies slept.
My daughter is a stay-at-home mom and her husband works hard to provide for their large family. They have six children ten and under. They also have a nephew living with them, a special needs adult brother of my son-in-law, and they are licensed foster care providers with two teenage foster sons. The two littlest children are 9 months and 19 months old. I think my son-in-law is a real special man. He does take a turn getting up during the night. Not many men do and under most circumstances, I don't feel they should have to.
You say he's worthless? Let's see....Doesn't he make the money that supports your family?
Perhaps you'd like to be the one to work outside the home and let him stay home with the baby. You seem to think you'd have it easier. I doubt that very much!
If you continue to not appreciate what your husband does, don't be surprised if someone out there catches his eye because they would appreciate a working husband!
2007-10-20 05:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the reality of wanting that sweet little baby, the normal demands of parenting. You two apparently haven't talked about what is expected in each of your roles. You are both the parents, but realistically you have more opportunities to nap during the day, or should be talking them. When the baby sleeps, you sleep. Housework can wait until the child is alittle older. The fact that both of you seem to view parenting as a burden is alittle scary. Besides the fact that you should be breast feeding, and exactly how is your husband going to do that for you. You'll get back into shape faster, your mental health will be better and your baby gets all the benefits of having the natural source of nutrition that he/she should.
2007-10-20 05:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband turns out very ancient common to me. You must have an sincere speak with him and inform him that despite the fact that you're a keep at residence mother you wish to have his support. Being a keep at residence mother is a 24 hour process and he's by and large most effective running 6 hour days on the such a lot. Therefore he will have to pitch in. If he isn't extra knowledge, this might imply predicament on your marriage. Make it transparent to him that you wish to have support. I wish you heal quickly! playstation My husband says that your husband will have to be serving to even if you're one hundred% healthful!!! And he will have to be doing extra if you are no longer!
2016-09-05 16:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he isnt fresh to be able to do his job well he will get fired and then you wont have a roof over your head so i would tough it out and put a smile on your face while you do it. I know this sounds harsh but it is the very truth
2007-10-20 05:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋