There is this guy (Tom) that I am friends w/ benifits with.we both have strong feelings for each other. we makeout, cuddle, hold each other in our arms for hours...but we arnt going out beacuse of age issues (im 16 hes 19). Well beacuse of that we are aloud to date other ppl. There is this guy (Kevin) at my school that my friend is trying to hook me up with. I am suppose to see Tom next month cuz he is comming down to see me beacuse he misses me. I miss him 2 and I cant wait to see him. But if things work out between Kevin and I, would It be concidered cheating If I were to still go see Tom, weather Kevin knew it or not. I really like Tom, and part of the reason Im interested in Kevin is b/c, as much as I want to,I cant wait for Tom, especially when he could find a girl at college anyday now.I do want to have a chance to date Tom in the future, and that is also y I dont want to tell him about Kevin either, Im afraid he will lose feelings if he knows. What do I do?
2007-10-20 04:36:53 · 5 answers · asked by Ladyjack12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
another option is to just keep seeing tom and not do anything sexual with him untill you're 18. if you really like eachother... because the choices you mention are pretty hard: you like kevin, but you would prefer tom. so if you go for kevin, you will be hurting him because he's your "second choice" and you could possibly waste your chance at a good thing with tom.
but to answer your question: yes, it's cheating. if you are in a relationship with kevin, then you can't keep seeing tom. sorry, but that's just that just wouldn't be right
2007-10-20 04:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the real world it is cheating if Kevin doesn't know. If you want to be seriuos with Kevin then Tom has to stay home. But in my world date Kevin then when Tom comes to town have your fun with him and hopefully Kevin will not find out. Then when Tom leaves Kevin is there to ummm with. But it comes down to it what you want to do and what you can morally deal with. I have my cake and eat it to thats just me. One man isn't enough for me heck two aren't even enough. But hey good luck and use protection..........
2007-10-20 11:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hot Angel, FWB relationships often end up in stages such as you find your in at present. Fact is that you are both free to see others as the only thing that is truly bonding the two of you together is suppose to be the benefits. But like all relationships jealousy, ownership etc. sneak in and before you know it this is like a real relationship. Honesty I have always found to be the best as then when your discovered or your secret is found out there is no need to lie. Good luck with this dilemma you now find yourself in.
2007-10-20 11:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were to go out with kevin and still see tom then that would kind of be considered cheating.
2007-10-20 11:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by Seth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were going out with kevin and still had your benefits with tom, that would defenitly be cheating!!!.. you have to pick one and not both. unless you were going to be friend with benefits with both of them.. but it sounds to me like you need someone to rely on and someone who will be there for you. someone like kevin maybe?..
2007-10-20 11:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋