I made plans a few months ago to go on a trip with a woman who is now my ex (as of last week). Now that we are broken up I don't feel like we should go on it together, but it is too late to cancel it and get any money back. Is it wrong to not take her? Is it wrong to take another girl? We are still friends but I don't want to go with her because it might lead her on. At the same time I don't want to piss her off by taking another person (especially if its another girl). What should I do?
2007-10-20 04:28:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Don't take another girl - friend, or your ex will have a hard time understanding why she wasn't able to go. Bring a buddy and have a good time. Tell your ex that given the circumstances, you don't think it's a good idea for the two of you to take the trip anymore. Make sure she gets reimbursed if she paid any money toward the trip. If you can't find a friend, perhaps a couple friend of yours could take both of your places.
2007-10-20 04:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Parkie21 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are still friends but broken up, that raises a lot of questions in my mind. Did you break up or did she? If you had a good relationship and are still friends perhaps you may be able to save the relationship and get back together by taking the trip together and spending some time talking to see what went wrong. you can even go together by telling her it is too late to get the money back so you can go as just friends, and try to avoid anything that you wouldn't do if she were another guy gong with you.
Although you can't cancel it and get your money back you might ask it you can postpone that and take the trip at a later date also.
If neither of those work, take another girl perhaps but don't jump into a relationship with a new girl until you have time to get over the last one. If she was the one to break up with you, taking another girl may convince her to think again and perhaps that might be good for your relationship but if you were the one to break up, it might appear that you are a player going from girl to girl, and it would be better to take another guy with you. Good luck and enjoy the trip, whatever you decide to do.
2007-10-20 04:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you go on the trip, take a friend or family member if you don't want to take her. If she put any money into the trip, you need to pay that money back to her if you take yourself and someone else on that trip. If she didn't invest in the trip at all, and it was all your money that went into the trip, don't worry about her feelings about if you go and who you take with you because she no longer has the right to show her displeasure in you to you because there is no attachment anymore.
2007-10-20 05:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ditto on the above answer...... it would be kind of mean and rude to bring another girl, especially after one week. Don't bring her because for sure it could and probably will be misleading......take a buddy and have a great trip going stag.... have fun
2007-10-20 04:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by chixwithkidz5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me once years ago two days before leaving for a trip, prepaid and all,my fiancee' broke up with me, so i took my best friend who reimbursed my ex for his share of the trip...We had an awesome time, partied all weekend long, It was one of the best times i had ever had. Considering the circumstances my weekend turned out great!
2007-10-20 04:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by witchywoman_1977 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her you still want to be friends and ask if it's ok to take a guy friend along with. Other than that I guess you should just be honest with her.
2007-10-20 04:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a guy and tell her she made you gay. I bet she would like that.
2007-10-20 05:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋