Granted, mine are already grown, but now I have a Granddaughter. I was disappointed when my Son came home from second grade crying because some kids Dad had told him there was no Santa and then the teacher confirmed it. Should we even start it? Or if we do when do we tell the truth?
2007-10-20 04:10:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Thats awful a teacher would confirm it!!!
I always tell them when they ask me (and they do a lot) that santa only comes when you believe in him, and then the parents put the presents under the tree.
My daughter is in second grade, and has never asked.
My sister and I didn't want to tell our parents that we didn't believe in santa, so we kept it up, even as teenagers, on our Christmas video's we say "thank you santa" Its just part of the holiday tradition, and we didn't want to let mom down.
She had such a great time with us "beliving." and the video's are hilarious to watch.
Believing in Santa, will help their imagination, and help them to belive in bigger things, it won't scar them for life when they find out there isn't one, we all find out eventually and none of us are scared, we carry on the tradition of santa clause when we get older.
2007-10-20 04:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best bet is to talk to the parents and see what age they age is right.
If you where telling the truth all the while you wouldn't be in this situation. However, if you were telling them the story of St. Nicholis instead of Santa Claus you would have a real person to base your stories off of instead of a made up person.
No one can say what age is the right age to tell them the truth that Santa is a LIE and their belief in him was all in vain. You have to be the parent that you are and be the judge yourself. Sometime before he/she graduates from High School and finds out the truth theirselves and try to find out what else you've been lieing to them about (be aware some kids will not take this lightly and if you think this is harsh just wait until you tell your kid all this). Don't expect them to be religious after all this, since Santa isn't real than God, Jesus, Ala, Budda, or what ever you pray to doesn't exist and it will be hard to convince them otherwise as this was the case with me. This site should help, hopefully. Good Luck!
2007-10-20 11:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think 2nd grade is about when most kids begin to realize that Santa is not real, so it is best for them to hear from the parents than their friends at school, but you should also tell them not to ruin it for others that still believe. I think it takes something away from their childhood if they don't get into Santa Clause. It does no lasting harm to them. I didn't hate my parents for "Lying" to me, like some people have said on here in the past.
Kids will NOT think that their parents are "Liars". JEEZ. I'm glad that the people below that said that their kids wouldn't trust them weren't my parents. Why ruin something so innocent just because they don't want to deal with having to tell their kids the truth later on.
2007-10-20 11:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just popular when the yule tide season arrives. Never give it up. When we learn that there is no Santa we all have a let down. However..the youngsters enjoy it and isn't that what life is about. What about the Easter bunny..or Rudolph the red nosed reindeer or Bambi? The tooth fairy? I can go on and on. It's entertaining for the kids. I don't see any harm in it. And besides...aren't "grand ma's" and "grand pa's" supposed to spoil the "grand-kids"?
2007-10-20 11:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by chilicooker_mkb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My oldest daughter is in third grade this year, and supposedly still believes. If she does truly believe, then I would assume this will be the last year. I'm pretty sure I was in 2nd grade when I stopped believing. My cousins never believed in Santa, my uncle who is a very strict Catholic didn't think it was appropriate to encourage focus on a fictional man over the birth of Jesus. To this day, my cousins who are 40, 38, and 30 all wish they would've been allowed to believe.
2007-10-20 11:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jen M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a better idea to tell them the truth. Let them know the presents are from you and not Santa or else the kid will feel upset and betrayed when they find out Santa Claus doesn't exist.
2007-10-20 12:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't ever stop.....to this day (I am 32!) my mom still tells me that she works with Santa and is only his helper....other kids will always spoil it but that does not mean that the "magic" still can't be there. Just because someday they will find out that there is no real Santa that is no reason to not start a great tradition with your family.
2007-10-20 12:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
my neice is 15 and just stopped believing in santa 2 years ago........let them believe as long as they want to it wont scar them for life letting them believe in santa...but its awful that a teacher told them that there isnt one it should be up to the parents not the teacher!!!
2007-10-20 13:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by jscangel18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that santa claus thing was out lawed in my house because clearly its a lie and we teach them that lieing is wrong but we intentionally lie to them this is justt something to think about i have no other answers for u good luck
2007-10-20 14:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by wordologist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we should ever lie to our children that Santa Claus is real. This is not "encouraging imagination" -- unless we tell our children that we can PRETEND the gifts are from Santa Claus. That is fine of course, but I believe strongly that this has to be made clear. Otherwise they may later doubt other things we tell them, including that God is real. As a mother I always made it clear that Santa Claus is pretend, but Jesus is real.
2007-10-20 11:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Isaiah 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋