Tension is high because of our money problems. We need some inspiration and motivation. Any ideas?
2007-10-20 04:10:14 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you all for your suggestions and well-wishes. I know that life is about love and not money. We had such a gorgeous wedding and we just bought our first home in June. The transition has been tough and so we're trying to do the best we can. Thanks again!
2007-10-20 04:34:54 · update #1
Have a candlelight dinner with spaghetti & cheap wine, then go to bed! Who needs $ when you're in love?
2007-10-20 04:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by animalover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at what you have...a husband...reguardless of money problems, you have each other. That is the best thing in the world...and let him know that. Tensions may be high but you two need to see past the money...b/c money doesn't bring happiness...love does. Show each other you love each other by maybe doing something you did when you were younger, take him on a simple picnic...i'm not sure how tight the money matter is but even just telling him will ease the tension and make it a happy anniversary...you don't need material things to celebrate...sometimes it's all in the heart already. Write him a poem or something...you never know what could happen...maybe he is thinking the same thing...you are one year into marriage...the love is still there...don't let money get in the way of your one yr anniversary... try something creative!
2007-10-20 04:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shhbob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first anniversary is Paper. Traditionally this means money... i think you should take a day off from money. But we have other paper options!
a) Paper Plates: Go have a picnic. Make the most random things out of what ever is in the pantry. Get creative. You know, if you take ramen noodles, a can of tuna, some peas, sprinkle the whole thing with breadcrumbs you have a lovely little casarole?! Get creative!!
b) $10: Take $10. And tell yourselves you're going to go out and have a fabulously fun filled day using ONLY $10. Hit the dollar store and get some coloring books and crayons. OR a kite!... Hit the dollar menu at Wendy's. Its kinda fun, tryin to come up with things to do that dont cost much. My roommate and i made a putt putt in the back of our apartment complex with plastic cups and a woofle ball bat from the Dollar store.
c) Notebook paper: Write him a letter. ( I say do this anyways...) Tell him how great the past year has been. and how you know things are tight now, but its a part of being married. And how you look forward of coming out of this on top with him by your side. Joke about truely testing that "For Richer for Poorer" clause in your vowes. Tell him that though you may fight and disagree, you will always love him. And when you think you have nothing else in this world, you will always haev each other.
ok... thats all i can think of off the top of my head. But i'm sure i can come up with something else. I'll let ya know if i do.
2007-10-20 04:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think of it this way...you guys had a great wedding and then went right into buying a house. Those were very big steps in such a small time for the average person. I got married in November of 06, and it was a small limited budget wedding of less than $2000. Even then, we has friends and family help. It was not the wedding that I had dreamed about, but it was the wedding that I dreamed about with the person I was going to marry. In the end it was perfect. We are still renting and because he just got a government job, we are starting to do better. So our anniversary will be good, but I am going to just take it easy so that way we can put money still where it needs to go-to our debts so that way we can be debt free. My advice is to have a quiet romantic dinner. Low key. Remember you have just taken big steps, and things will get better. Start budgeting and things will fall into place. That is where we are at right now. We will buy a house when we have nothing but that as a debt (hopefully). So good luck to you and remember to have a happy anniversary!
2007-10-20 05:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by chanel_va 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the "priceless" commercials? Well there are plenty of people out there that have money and no love- so go for it! Plan a romantic picnic, a candlelight massage, pop a tent in the backyard and go camping! Or try all three! I would give anything to have time with the one I love. It isn't about money it's about the time you spend together. Write each other a poem about your love, sing him your favorite song (even if you can't carry a note!)- he'll appreciate the effort.... Your relationship and love wasn't built on money right? Share your love and be grateful that you have each other close to celebrate....God Bless and Good Luck!
2007-10-20 04:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by tammy b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a park and have a picnic in the park. Have a nice dinner at home and watch some movies together. As long as you are with eachother then everything will be OK. Like you said it's your 1st anniversary you have plenty more to come down the line that you can do something big. Another idea is to find somewhere where the sunset is beautiful and watch the sun go down. You can do one or all three.
2007-10-20 04:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by forever yours 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cook a nice romantic dinner together, with candlelight. Rent some movies that you guys want to watch and cuddle on the couch. Sooo many at home things to do if you can't go out or go on a trip, unless you make a trip on memory lane if you live where you guys hooked up at. Go around and say your favorite memories. And most of all, don't worry about your problems on this day... You guys are together, happy and healthy and that's all that matters :)
2007-10-20 04:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend the night looking in the papers for extra jobs and have big discussions about how you are going to improve your finances. Plan a really nice wedding anniversary something you both want to do, but postpone it till you have the money. Get a big chart and plan your future. If you have a bath, both get in it and relax and brainstorm ideas how to fix your finances. If you are two ablebodied energetic people, you should be able to sort out your tensions when the ideas start to enter your minds. No get-rich-quick schemes. And if you have never sold anything in your lives, don't think you can suddenly get jobs as salespersons. But if you want to try selling, do it as an extra, to get experience. Cigarettes, drugs, alcohol and coffee at cafes take a lot of your money if you are doing those things.
2007-10-20 04:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by wemblania 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make a special day or evening at home alone. Cook a nice meal that doesn't cost that much, lasagna, spaghetti, a favorite casserole whatever you 2 like to eat. Set the table romantically. Don't answer the phone, no TV or computer and just enjoy each others company. And the rest of the romantic evening should be obvious. It never really every costs too much to just enjoy our love for each other. So throw your worries away for one evening. Good Luck and Have Fun.
2007-10-20 04:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by shanla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of inexpensive things that you could do to celebrate your wedding anniversary. Like pack a picnic lunch and go to the park. Take a walk like in a nice neighborhood or something and talk. Go home and watch a nice love movie then take a nice hot relaxing bubble bath together. That is an inexpensive nice romantic way to celebrate your love.
2007-10-20 04:22:16 · answer #10 · answered by leslie_starbootie14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, this happens to everybody. You don't have a lot of time. See what you have in the frig, try to come up with a special dinner . Use things you already have or borrow from your girl friends . Romance doesn't cost a lot of money show him that you appreciate him and all his hard work and that you guys are a team.
Attitude,a sexy dress,good meal, great sex that is what its all about. Don't for get music, maybe Dance.
2007-10-20 04:17:40 · answer #11 · answered by rjm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋