Nowadays, more mommies go to work and delegate their household chores including their raising up their children to other people. This is actually what is happening now, how can the quality and quantity of time create a successful MOmmy? Is it related really???
2007-10-20 03:23:05 · 18 answers · asked by E@rthGoddess 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think it is all about PRIORITIES. If your children are your priority, then it doesn't matter if you are a working mom or not, they are going to be just fine because you are always going to be protecting, loving, and checking on them. Now, if your children are not your priority, it doesn't matter if you stay at home all day all night, those children are going to be neglected ANYWAYS!!!
2007-10-20 03:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by eli_davila2002 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is a loaded question. A good mommy is one who takes the time for her children. Working or stay at home. I know a stay at home Mom leaves her kids in a bar parking lot in her van for hours on end while she just runs in for a minute. Is she a good mom? I'm a mom who owns her own business and brings her babies to work with me every day. Since the day they were born. Literally. Some days its a hassel and I don't get anything done. Somedays its great. The customers have come to love my kids and expect them to be there when they get there. And even ask where they are when they are napping. Work>>>> dont work>>>>> Doesn't make you a better or worse parent. Do what is right for you and your family.
2007-10-20 10:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by momma_g_111 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have been both and I dont think that being a good mom should consist of the amount of household chores she does it depends on the quality of the care she gives the children. A loving mom is a successful one.
2007-10-20 10:30:15 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal B 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Working or not working doesn't determine who is successful at parenting. The thing that is important is whether or not the kids are raised by loving and caring parents who will do anything for their kids. A mom could stay home and the last hing on her mind are her kids or a mom could work so she never sees her kids. I say it is not if you are with your kids every second of the day, but that when you are with them, you provide a safe, loving, caring, and helpful enviroment for them. I am a working mom of two year old twins and another set on the way. I feel that I do everything my kids need and never put them second of myself. For me, kids come first.
2007-10-20 12:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a working mom but I now stay at home. I feel that I am a better mom now while I'm staying home than I was when I was working. When I was working outside the home, I had to put 100% of my energy into my job, and when I came home, my family got the worst of me because I was always stressed out, frazzled and rushed. I mean, when I was working a full time job, I would come home and have 3 hours to do a full days worth of housework, only getting to spend 20 to 30 minutes at the MOST with my daughter - that's not cool. She wasn't getting the one on one attention in daycare - and she went to a "good" daycare - that she needed. She was always craving for attention in the evenings at home and we could only give her so much while rushing around trying to make supper, vaccum, do laundry, wash dishes, do yard work, run errands clean the house, ect ect, ect. It was sad, really and I know that that's the case with a lot of parents who have to work - it's hard and there's just not enough time in the day it seems.
I have been a WAAAAAAAAY better mom since I've been a stay at home mom. I'm always here for my daughter. I am able to spend as much time with her as I want, and I'm able to teach her (she's so smart! I'm so proud of her!), and best of all, I am able to give my 100% that I had been giving to my job outside the home to my family now, and that's what they deserve - my 100%. It's made all the difference in our home - so much in fact that even though things are tight, my husband will NOT let me go back to work... it's made that much of a difference in our home and in our lives. I just think that my daughter is worth ALL of my time, and that that's the way it should be. Children are a blessing and I wouldn't want to miss a minute of it. When I was working I was unable to be there for her when she needed me and for that I felt that I was a poor parent. Now though, I am able to be here for her all of the time and it's so much better for her, and for us as a family. We just function better than we did, and a lot better than our friends where both parents worked - they're always stressed and we're not. I love it. I wish everyone could be a stay at home mom because it is best for your children - but I know that that's not possible for everyone.
I just wanna add that she's not isolated either - we go to playgroup 3 times a week and have kids over here every so often too - she loves it!
2007-10-20 18:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if you have a stay-at-home mom who sits at home on the couch all day, watching TV or talking on the phone, or on the computer for hours, who doesn't pay much attention to her kids, other than telling them "Go play! Your getting on my nerves!"
Is she more successful in raising her kids, just because she is a SAHM?
What if on the other hand, you have a working mom, who comes home immediatly after work, helps her kids with homework, plays with them, spends her weekends taking her kids fun places and spending time with them. A mother who works hard to provide for her kids the necessities of life, as well as the fun things.
Is she not successful just because she works outside the home?
It isn't the position your in, its how you work with it?
2007-10-20 11:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Statistically kids of SAHMs are less likely to get pregnant as teens, less likely to drop out of school or use drugs, etc, and are more likely to go to college, get good grades and make more money as adults.
But that's only statistics. There are plenty of great working moms and bad SAHMs.
In the end it's only a few percentage points difference.
2007-10-20 15:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Arwen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guys are very good at bring up the kids my ex was,We have three boys and he was mush better at dealing with them than i was .They also enjoyed the time spent with dad. Its OK I had to let him have that, but now that they are bigger Its mom they look to in the ways of the world.
2007-10-20 10:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by mcdonaldsnuggetaustin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one can make sacrifices and have a spouse that can bring in a reasonable a mom should stay home to raise the children. There is a big difference in this as they grow up understanding family values.
However...in the majority of most cases it takes two now to support the home and family. This is partially due to the women's movement years ago that put pressure on women to get out and work in the workforces like the men.
This didn't help for men lost jobs to women and pay dropped.
Now society and generations have mixed roles and are confused as to what and where they should be.
2007-10-20 10:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Swampmoth 4 · 6⤊ 4⤋
A parent who wisely uses the resources & tools that they have available to do what they feel is best for their family & for their children, will be a successful parent.
2007-10-20 11:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋