I have no control over the fights . he starts with me. expects me to "talk" with him ( argue is more like it) . HeTells me Im hurting him
( im like WTH? I work , go 2 school , come home . the end . thats my life. hurt you how? puh-leez!)
and he know Im good to him, but he say he wants more of my time , but if that were true , why fight on the weekend??? Its the only time that I do have to spend with him!
anyhoo . he starts a fight, follows me around trying to fight , ends the fight and says " we're not talking and Im taking off!"
all the while through the entire "fight" Im just standing there looking at him like " WTH?"
so what do ya think?
2007-10-20 00:10:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Negative attention is better than none at all.
Before you fight next weekend, sit down and talk with him. Let him know that he is the most important thing in the world to you, but you do have a lot of things going on.
Ask him what he would like you to do outside of quitting work and school to make this a better situation. As well, remind him that school is temporary, and that there will be more time in the future.
These fights will hurt your relationship, and eventually cause irreparable resentment. Address it now, let him know he is loved, and find ways that will show him you love him even though you are busy. What comes around goes around, and there will be a time where you want more of his time, and your demonstration of understanding will help him to give you that in return in the future.
2007-10-20 00:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See the Response from "Barbara." I think that's a good way to handle this initially.
However, it does seems he requires an excuse to leave at specific times, then he can feel free to pursue his own plans.
Explosive anger is not a good predictor of a healthy person or relationship. You must consider that this could escalate. Does he want to control all aspects of your life? Find out now.
2007-10-20 02:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by mildred f 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your fiance has a problem with you making something out of your life.
You work and go to school? That's not an easy thing to do,and maybe he is jealous that you devote your time to other things besides him.
Does your fiance even work? I am getting the impression that he doesn't.If he did,then he would understand your need to support yourself.
Doesn't sound like you give him a reason to be upset with you,it just sounds like he is an argumentative person.
In my opinion,I wouldn't date someone that treats me like that.
2007-10-20 05:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Candi Apples 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to nail him down and talk to him, don't you think? Get him to talk about it. It might be something totally unrelated; stress, work, money, etc. The only way that you'll ever know what's going through his head is if he says it. It's tougher if he can't express it. Keep trying and you guys will work it out, I'm sure. Good luck, Moni.
2007-10-20 00:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's starting a fight with you so that he can go out and do his own thing on the weekend. Sounds suspect to me.
2007-10-20 00:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by CW 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump him double D
Good luck
2007-10-20 00:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope I'm wrong, but maybe its his way of saying he isn't ready to get married yet......
2007-10-20 00:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think he needs your attention and care. maybe he worries for something like you lost your interest, attraction and love to him.
2007-10-20 00:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you can't cook.
2007-10-20 00:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋