My boyfriend of a few months is planning on visiting a friend (girl) who lives in another country. He tells me she is only a friend but I'm really worried as I don't know her and wonder why he has to do this. He met her when studying overseas a year ago and they've been in contact as friends. She visited him once (before we got together) and they've kept up the contact by chatting. Am I paranoid? I can't help feeling that if a man needs to visit a woman, he must have feelings for her. Any words of wisdom would help me.
2007-10-19 23:53:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe, maybe not. I wouldn't completely dismiss the idea of a love affair, so you may want to try to do some digging on this. Maybe you could tell him that you want to make an overseas friend as well & ask him for her e-mail. This way she can be both of your friends & maybe next time both of you can go visit her. If he freaks or denies you the e-mail, then you know that he's cheating.
2007-10-19 23:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went to Romania and met a girl there. When I returned I told my gf about her. We had a lot of trouble over it but finally I was able to move on and consider her a friend now. (there was a considerable age difference and it wouldn't of ever worked long term) We do chat a lot and e-mail still. I am going to Italy soon and thought about having her meet me there, as a friend, but after thinking about it I realized that it wasn't truly as friends, it was because I am still thinking about her in an inappropriate manner, if I truly love my gf, which I do. So, I am not going to ask her to meet me there, even though I want very badly to see her. I think maybe you bf should be thinking the same way. It is difficult for a man and women to be "just friends" (not impossible though) but throw in a foreign country that is new, exciting and romantic (who doesn't have a fantasy of meeting someone and falling in love in a foreign country? Heck, they make movies about it) and things can happen beyond our control.
2007-10-20 07:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not paranoid , if they met a year ago and he is going to visit he obviously still thinks of her. Maybe nothing will happen because he is with you. But he is defiantly fond of this girl. It must be a pretty good friend to go travel all that way for. cant you go too ?, its never a good sign when people start leaving their partners to go on holidays. It is likely somethng will happen , so you need to investigate to see if it really is just innocent. Personally i think he hasnt told you the whole story.
2007-10-20 06:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your feelings in this matter, and it is true that he's definitely not "indifferent" to her to make such a monumental effort, but it doesn't necessarily follow that the feelings he has for her are romantic in nature....they could just as easily have a long history together (friend capacity) that would make her equally significant to warrant such a gesture. And, if he hasn't given you cause to not trust him prior to this, I wouldn't stop trusting him now because of this. Good luck to you.
2007-10-20 07:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men can have a platonic relationship with a girl just as a girl can have a platonic relationship with a man. Either you trust each other or you don't, but it sounds like you are jealous and that is not a Basie's for a good relationship.
2007-10-20 10:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely! First off, I don't think that a man/boy and woman/girl can be 'just friends'. Just not feasible. That huggy/kissy always comes into action. Yes, I would feel the same way as you.
2007-10-20 07:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course he has feeling!! I would never make a trip to visit just a female friend and have nothing back from her.
I did trip abroad to meet girls as well, and of course to have some "fun".
I have had so many friends (guys) and believe me they all think the same. guys don't want girls as friend. they want more.
2007-10-20 08:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by thisisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing the innocent. i dont think it is just friendship, because you spend money and time to be together with that person. i think there are lots of things that you don tknow about him.
i dont believe that is just friendship. or they both play "we are JUST friends". also the girl is living apart but you live next to him, so it is easy for him to manage both parts. if he didnt feel something to her, he wouldnt go to visit her.
i dont believe any men would spend money, give their time to see just a friend instead of passing time or going on a trip with his girlfriend. he is tryng to put you in his pocket, that is it. i am sorry.
2007-10-20 06:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distance does a lot to relationships.i can't tell u to snoop around, u'll only raise suspicions that could give u answers u prefer not to have found out. he's going to see her may or may not mean they include sex in the recipe.his feelings for her is mutual and nothing else.
2007-10-20 09:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by selej2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm i think he just keeping you dangling untill he visits this girl and finds out if he wants her more that you, And i bet he has not invited you to go along to . Get rid of this inconsiderate git
2007-10-20 07:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by CHRISTINA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋