burps when he drinks beer !!! Its such a turn off...I have told him that before. He gets mad at me saying that he has to or else he feels sick. I tell him he can let the air out without making a loud burp. I have done this before myself when I drink carbonated drinks. He says its not the same. He says he has to do it loud and that its not healthy if he doesn't. We get into fights about this. I remind him that he never burped outloud when we were dating and maybe I wouldn't be married to him if he did burp out loud. I always critisized this action and I honestly feel grossed out. He gets frustrated because he says he sould be able to do this in his own house. He keeps saying that its not healy to keep the burp in. Is this true or am I asking for too much?
2007-10-19 23:38:43 · 19 answers · asked by liliana 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To release one's gases is a healthy thing..in order to build them up it's actually not harmful. The trick he must use when he is slammin' his brews is to not take so much air along with the gulp. Most of what causes the large belch is an excess of air....so instead of squabbling about all this...you two should get online and look at the reasons why he burps like he does instead of focusing on the problem itself.
2007-10-19 23:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by caminolargo76 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What your husband says is totally CRAP! There's no such thing that if you burp silently, its unhealthy.
Make him drink beer in a party or an event, he'll burp silently for sure. If he burps out LOUD, ask your friend to humilate him there; right on the spot. He'll feel embarrassed and most probably, he'll stop burping aloud.
If he burps silently, back at home. ask him why he could do that in the event and not at home? It should be a good question to ask....
All the best!
2007-10-20 06:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by natesh_91 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it signifies deeper issues. It's a pretty trivial thing to get annoyed about.
Why don't you go into another room or something when he's drinking? Or ask him to keep it down to one burp a night? You could also lovingly try patting him on the back until the burp comes up, and see if that giving gesture turns your feelings around.
It's true, he should be able to burp in his own home. But it's your home, too. I know people who make their husbands smoke out on the patio -- maybe you should get him to drink his beer out there.
Marriage is about compromise. Surely there is something you two can come to an agreement on.
2007-10-20 06:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. He should be able to tone down his burps somewhat. Most people feel funny burping out loud, even at home. It doesn't seem to bother him in the least. That's a little unusual.
After I burp, even at home, I try to muffle it somewhat and say excuse me. I do not find that toning down the burp reduces it's effectiveness in any way.
2007-10-20 06:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has the right to behave in any way he wants. But, that doesn't mean you have to put up with it. You could; a) leave the house when he drinks beer, b) go to bed when he drinks beer, c) go to another location in the house where you can't hear him, d) leave the marriage because this one behavior is a deal breaker for you.
You aren't going to change him, you can only decide how YOU will respond to the behavior.
2007-10-20 06:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by hvnmorefun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally a good burp is quite a releif but true one does not have to make a huge noise about it, and no loud burping is not necessary for you health unless he is talking about his mental health in annoying the **** out of you. :)
I think there are worse things to worry about than someone burping and most likely if you stop worrying about it all he will stop making so much noise.
Men are just like big boys
2007-10-20 06:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by sandiemay01 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with u, I hate people doing it so load and i also try to make it in silent or away from people. It is not possible to avoid it but possible to respect other people. I don't really know if it's not healthy if people try to keep it inside and not let it go out but i am keeping it inside always and i am healthy man so i think it is not a problem to be a bit more gentleman when being close to woman
2007-10-20 06:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lost In Space 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's good to let out the gases at home, I mean, I've seen the politest of people burp/fart at home(my mum and my cousin). I always do it at home when I need to(usually in my room because of the stink. Yeah, I know this is gross..lol :) ).
We should feel free in our homes. Though..I know you've let out a burp or something home once..I know, it's unlikely that you haven't.If you feel grossed out keep stating your feelings even though you realise they are overeactions. and ask him to burp with his hands over his mouth or something.
lol..might be crappy advice seeing as ya already tried asking him to do it silently :p
2007-10-20 07:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should change but get over it. He has taken an adversarial position. You may do well to apologize to him for your comments. By removing the adversarial positions he may not feel like he loses if he agrees to stop doing it. If not he is a jerk and you may have to live with it. If this is his only problem then you are doing pretty good.
2007-10-20 06:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by halfway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are irrational.
A burp is a burp. If it is that offensive do not drink beer with him or leave him.
I bet you have some annoying habits, have you changed yourself for him?
2007-10-20 06:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by blueink 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋