I been single for almost 4 years, I have dated during that time, but for some reason I can not trust these women or open to them because it never feels right. Some friends say its because I still am pissed at my ex fiance from 4 yrs ago and I will never trust or get close until I forgive her. I know that it is perfectly normal to hate and not forgive her and it has no bearing on other women because they are different people. Can someone please tell me what the real issue is?
2007-10-19 23:09:08 · 9 answers · asked by rustychiefs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
On another note the ex and I hate each other and have contact with each other. And neither of us want that. She is out of my life and I am very happy about that. She is would not be a good friend. She is a generally bad person.
2007-10-19 23:15:03 · update #1
I am 100% strait. Nothing against gays. Thats just definately not me.
2007-10-19 23:16:50 · update #2
The answers I have gotten are ok, but there seems to be a misunderstanding. I have been single for 4 yrs. I do not talk or see my ex at all. I just hate her and intend to keep it that way for what she did. So for real, what is the issue with why I feel nothing except for physical attraction for any female i have dated since.
2007-10-20 22:18:21 · update #3
This time around your probably taking things more seriously than you should. You be hurt by your ex fiance that lead you to believe that all women are like that, but they're not. When you go on a date, go into the date with a open mind and not necessarily to judge. Your taking it slow and there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-10-19 23:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Karen G. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to hate but it is not good for your mental or physical health. You don't have to tell her you forgive her that is not important. The relationship ended for whatever reason. Maybe her fault, maybe yours again it is not important. It ended, it is over and in the past. Now, you do need to forgive her in your heart to clear your mind of the past and get on with the future. You may not want to admit it but that break up is still taking up space in your heart and until you forgive and forget you will not be able to move on. Instead of dating romantically why not just start by being friends with women and see if you can trust again.
2007-10-20 06:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by eek! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not Single for the past 4 years
as if you were ..YOU would be Bran New
to the new Experience..
and you seem to be carrying the old used Bag on your Back
THE longer you take upon to carry it up hill to the other side
the heavier it will // Get only to meet up with a Detour
Your fault No one Else's..
You have chosen a streak on your skin that will mar your whole bodily AMBITION
no old hair or debris on a play ground.
Clean out AOL the foundation by dumping it
once and for all by keeping Busy..
Stop looking until you find yourself FIRST.
good luck you can START as of TODAY..
THE fog was yesterday not today..!!
2007-10-20 06:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hating a person is perfectly natural it is good in a way to display such emotions in a healthy ay.But dont worry about the lack of commitment on both sides as sometimes you need to find the right person to connect to .cos sometimes they dont turn up. Lay low and take it cool for a while it should work out okay in a couple of years
2007-10-20 06:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Shahzadi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a fine line between love and hate and that is probably what you had. It is such a shame because the good is usually great but it never takes up for the bad.
Sorry Dude
2007-10-20 06:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Dardika Drake 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hatred is a negative sentiment and it will be torturing you as long as you retain it in your mind. As long as you think that it is perfectly normal to continue to hate,you should forget about having a normal life.It is of no use keeping yourself tied to the past. You have to forgive her and clean your heart.
2007-10-20 06:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment - You never want to commit again unless you are 100% sure & that is fair enough. You will feel 100% sure of the right person when you meet them.
2007-10-20 06:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if it doesn't feel right maybe your gay. but if thats a big NO i think your still pissed and just have to let go and let other people in
2007-10-20 06:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe ur behaviour is nt good.....or u need true luv!!!!
2007-10-20 06:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by я๏ђเт яสώสт 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋