Why do u girls do it?

Question

if u girls like a guy in high school then y do u avoid eye contact with them, flirt with their mates, try to ignore them, pretend u don't notice them......why not just show him ur interested....i 100% garentee that if he likes u and u show him u like him, he'll ask u out

i'll just add that this girl is a friend of mine and while shes not extremely confident, shes not shy

Answer 1

Because people in general can be very ***-backwards in their actions vs. their desired outcomes.

By flirting with your buds, she is looking to get your attn (maybe even make you a little jealous) without having to feel rejected by you if it doesn't go well. It's safe and it's fun and it might get you to look her way.

By avoiding eye contact as well as ignoring you, well, that should be obvious. Shyness and coyness play a part. It's scary to look someone in the eye if you feel vulnerable and if you don't just put it all out there, you might do a little chasing yourself. (A girl can enjoy a good chase too!)

It seems that you have a little bit of our MO figured out. So, if a gal you like is doing these things, go for it!!! You'll ve one of the (few) males who knows what's up!

Answer 2

*Here you seem interested in the shy types....this is what I got for you.* Break the shyness streak and do something about it...let us know how the experiment works.

In any group of girls, there’s usually one who’s getting all the attention. You know, she’s really animated, talking a lot, outgoing, a lot of guys are hitting on her. You can bet some of the other girls in the group are kind of shy and are feeling left out and a bit jealous – and they’re dying for their share of attention! Give it to them, and it will be like throwing them a lifeline – they’ll cling on to you to save them from the horror of being a chick in the shadow of some other woman!


Here’s what you do: Scope out the girl in the group who seems kind of shy, who’s looking around for attention but can’t seem to get any because her girlfriend is dancing on the tabletops or just being really loud and boisterous - and being hit on by every guy in the place. Go up to your shy girl and say, “I just can’t believe it.” She’ll say, “What?” “I can’t believe why everyone is making such a fuss over your friend when there’s such a beautiful woman sitting over here in the corner. We need to do something about that. Can I join you?” She’ll be very flattered, and thankful someone noticed her! Ask her name, give her yours, and offer to buy a drink. Make sure you don’t say anything negative about her loud, flirty friend – this will turn her off. Give her the attention she’s been craving, tell her she’s got beautiful eyes. Ask her about herself, what she does for a living, where she lives – women love to talk as much as they love compliments, and they love it when someone takes an interest. And after seeing her friend be the one to get the spotlight all night, she’ll lap up the attention like crazy. Tell her you enjoyed meeting her and would like to take her out sometime, then get her number. She’ll be all too happy to give it – handing over a phone number will show her friends that she’s getting male attention, too! She’ll be thankful you saved her from sitting unnoticed, and you’ll be on your way to one very hot date with a very grateful gal!

Answer 3

its cause we dont want to get hurt and we r shy bout the whole thing.
what i dont understand is, y guys that see this kind of signs dont ask the girl out...i mean girls do that cause they prolly think by doing that a guy will finally notice them and get jealous and come out of that shell and ask

Answer 4

High school girls are immature. That is why they play "games", because they are testing the dating waters.

Answer 5

so that the guy won't think that the girl is head over-heels for the guy

Answer 6

Shyness probably.

Answer 7

FEAR OF REJECTION.
and insecurity
low self-esteem.

Answer 8

With me it's not flirting... it's shyness. :)

Answer 9

Dude, It's fear.

We'd rather you chase us so we don't get rejected.

Or they they truley hate you, and your mates are wat hotter than you

Answer 10

they are shy!!