to all the mothers between 24-27 what are the advantages disadvantages of having your children at this age?

Answer 1

That range is my goal, I don't see a problem with it.

Answer 2

I am 26 and I have a 5 year old daughter. I was fresh out of high school when I had her only living on my own with my husband for about 7 months before I got the surprise of being pregnant.
I think there are advantages and disadvatages having children at any age. I don't think I was "ready" to have children yet, but you never are. Having my daughter was the best thing to ever happen to me. I faced the responsibility and it has made me a better person. I now attend college while she is in school and you just learn to make things work. Just give your child a lot of love and moral support and you will do fine. You will know if you are ready or not. I was just lucky enough to have a wonderful and supporting husband and our families have been great. They were not judgemental about it. Good luck.

Answer 3

The pluses are that you:
*are in your biological prime to conceive and give birth,
*have ideally had some time to be a "true adult" (out of school, mom and dad's house, freedom yet fully responsible for your choices, etc.), gather real life experience, and taste the free life that you won't have again until the kids move out,
*have some time to find yourself and test some of those beliefs you held while you were younger.

The negatives are that:
* more and more people are finding the careers they wish for later in life (sometimes well into their 30's) and having kids at this point can inhibit that ability to freely search,
*you are just a few years out on your own, and sometimes it takes time before your assets are enough to really allow you any freedom at all (having kids now will cut that exploration short),
*the choices out there are crazy-busy, and 24-27 is many times too quick to taste all you might want to. I think that is why we see so many parents out there in this age group harried and sometimes resentful, even to the point of leaving their families to explore things they never got to before the baby/babies came.

But it is all so subjective; each person has their own timeframe. I say, "Know thyself." If it takes you 21 years, then 24-27 is great. If you are still unsure, wait. Kids are a point-of-no-return venture, and to be the best parent you can be, your heart, your head, your entire being has to be vested in it. You can't be wishing for the freedoms you now gave up, and I think that is the biggest danger--at any age--of parenthood.

Answer 4

I'm 24 and I"m having my first child now... and honestly it has scared me to pieces. When I was younger (around 8) I told myself I wouldn't have a child until I was 25. I came very close to that actually... however, I very recently felt as if I'm far too young. Taken in mind, that I come from a family where everyone has had their first child between the ages of 14-18. I'm the blacksheep. I think the main thing I worry about is the fact that I'm not finished even getting my bachelors degree, and I'll be in the last semester when my child is born. I then still have many years to spend getting my degrees until I receive my doctorate. However, I will honestly say, after thinking about it, and reading a lot of stories of other women online, I realize that if I had waited many more years, that 30 and the "biological clock" would be seriously looking down upon me. I think that helps me come to terms a bit better... because by the time I finish school fully I could be over that age, and have ran out of time to have children. Also, I think with me having a man who was so ready to have children, and wanted to have children young (he wanted one when he was 19 and he's now 26) that has helped. I also look at my father who had me at 35, and although I love my father to pieces, I feel as if he was a bit too old. I worry, even being only 24, with all of the young (average age is 60) people dying in my family... with him being 56 ... that I might have to deal with that fact so soon.. and it just feels as if I'm way too young to have that burdon placed on me.. and to deal with medical conditions that are already starting to happen.. and other things. I think overall, as long as I push myself to finish my college education, and I continue to have a strong backbone of my fiance' to support me.. that I will make an excellent mother and be able to provide for my child, at the age I am now.

Answer 5

I'm a mother of 2 kids and I'm 22 years old, so this doesn't really apply to me, but I think that the advantages would be that you would be done with college and you would be working in the career field that you went to school for. You would still be young enough to keep up with your kids, but old enough to be over your party days and you'd be better situated in life.

Answer 6

you will be in your 40s when your children gain their independence and your life begins again, you are fitter, you wont look like the childs granny instead of their mum at the school gates, you can go back to work and start ypur career once the kids go to school instead of starting one stopping for 5 years and then getting back into it again, or in some cases the mothers go back to work after having a baby i dont agree with this, but thats personal, anyway disadvatages, you loose you social life and idependence to do what you like, eg sod of to thailand for a month, - you cant do that anymore, but thats the same whatever age you are!!!!