Well, I had a first date tonight and I think it went well. But first a little background. The guy I went out with told me before our date that he had never had a girlfriend and that he was a virgin.Thats no problem for me. We had a good time and we talked and laughed alot. We went to dinner and then afterwards went to a bar that he works at part time after his daytime job. So he knew almost everyone, and it was a little hard for us to really talk after that. He was sort of all over the place. I didnt say much, but I did participate in the conversation and laughed. But at the end of the night he didnt hug me or even try to kiss me, and he didnt say that he wanted to do it again. He said that he hoped I had a good time and I said the same, but he just sorta shook his head yes. Im confused. I want to see him again. He was totally charasmatic and I really liked him alot. Nothing bad happened, and I thought we hit it off but he gave no indication that he wanted to do it again. Any thoughts?
2007-10-19 18:51:00 · 16 answers · asked by Needs Help! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First date. he had expectations that you didn't know about, thus how he felt.
Go out for a second time; he should be better relaxed
2007-10-19 18:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy could be a diamond in the rough, or just clueless. Sounds like you'll have to take the initiative for a second date. Call him in a couple days and tell him you had a great time and wondered if he'd like to go out again, (and you say when).
What's the worst he can say? No? Well if you don't ask it is just a no anyways, so what is there to lose?
Just keep him away from the bar where he can roam around and forget he's on a date. Go somewhere unusual, even a daytime date.
If you go on the date, assess then if you think this guy is worth pursuing, but you know what the best thing to do is. After a second date, find out if he's interested in continuing to see each other. If he says yes, that's great. Then jst don't make it too easy. Most guys like a little mystery and a chase, don't throw yourself at him. If he ends up being the kind of guy where you have to lead him by the collar and he won't take initiative at all, well.. then you need to decide if you're ok with that.
Hopefully, it will work out and even if it doesn't, it still helps you to learn more about yourself and what you like and don't like in a guy.
Good luck.
2007-10-19 19:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by dog's best friend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to call. If he doesn't, call him; you've got nothing to lose.
It's a bit odd that he would tell you beforehand that he was a virgin since you're both old enough to drink. It's not odd that he is but, rather, that he mentioned it out of the blue.
It could be true and he wanted to avoid pressure. Or, it could be false and be a ploy to get you to be more aggressive than you might normally be. Either way, he sounds respectful and someone you are interested in.
Good luck and don't be afraid to "faire des avances", as the French say.
2007-10-19 18:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by LucaPacioli1492 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wait. Make sure you are available to be asked again. If, after a couple weeks you haven't heard from him, find some excuse to talk to him. If he doesn't ask you out within a couple days of that, give up on him and don't worry about it.
Different things appeal to different people. You can't read someone else's mind. If you contact him after a couple weeks, you could just send a note telling him what a good time you had, and thanking him again.
2007-10-19 18:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Einsteinetta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he never had a girl friend before then he may not know what to do next and just did nothing. give him a little time then either "run into him" or call him and just have general conversation and then say "I really enjoyed our date the other night - can we do that again some time" or something like that. If he doesn't respond then don't push it - he isn't interested in you (or girls).
2007-10-19 18:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries ! If you had a good time , then he probably did too !
He could be a little shy , though .
Don' t be afraid to take the reins and ask him yourself for another date . If he really is shy , then you' ll also have to suggest what to do and where to go .
Only one thing bothers me . He took you to a place where he knew everybody . Was he trying to impress his friends with you by his side ?
At any rate , I do hope that you' ve got a good thing going !
2007-10-19 19:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's still a virgin, then he might be like me and has a little problem with indicating to women how he feels. I wouldn't give up on him quite yet, just give him some time, and let him know how you feel.
2007-10-19 18:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by Alone in the Crowd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See him again. It sounds like you're into him, and he didn't do anything to kill the prospects of a second date. You said yourself that it went well. Enjoy and good luck.
2007-10-19 18:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by unabashed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him call you if he's interested he will....and the because he's a virgin and never had a gf before he might not know how too act.... he's just inexperienced thats all it is
if it doesnt happen then dont break your heart over it it aint worth it go for someone else there will someone else around the corner :)
2007-10-19 19:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by scotty84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him let it ring 4 or 5 times then hang up.
Don't call twice it's pushing it.
If he wants to talk he'll call.
Hopefully he has caller ID
2007-10-19 18:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋