Suicidal... breakup... confusion... help please soon?

Question

i broke up with my boyfriend which is something i can't help but do often
he is mean to me but... i always end up back with him
well this time he said it was final
he won't answer my calls
i've been severly depressed lately...
i don't know what to do
i can't eat sleep i just cry
everything makes me cry
i can't breathe...
and i'm confused about our relationship but i can't get him back... i hate myself

Answer 1

Without God's love, you will always crave more and more and never be content.

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Also, you may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14 and of course, instead of the bullies being punished I was the one who got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends while there (and still have about none). Soon after attending that school I was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out and being mistreated at nearly all the jobs I had by coworkers or bosses who harassed me out of them. But, God saved me and helped me beat my depression and allowed and helped me to accomplish some great things that I can take comfort in having accomplished no matter how miserable. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now since he's opened my eyes.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 2

The very first thing you need to do is take a deep, deep breath and once you've done that, take another. Once your head clears a bit from the fog and the pain you can ask yourself - - based on your history with this person, do you really want a relationship with him or do you want to be the one who controls the situation. In other words - you say that 'this time he said it was final ....I can't get him back. Depression is sometimes caused by the pain of loss; however, that loss isn't always the loss of love as much as it is (as I said) the loss of one's personal power which makes one feel as if they've lost their self-esteem.
If you were constantly breaking up with this person and then reuniting only to feel miserable once more - I hope that you'll consider seeking out a counselor at school or a teacher or someone that you feel comfortable in confiding in. It's important that you get to the root of this problem so that future relationships do not have 'abuse' (the need for it to happen or the need to give it) or 'control' issues as there foundation. On the brighter side - you're not alone - all of us have, at one time or another, gone through something like this situation though the intensity might have been not as profound.

Answer 3

This is going to be hard, but it never fails when he is acting the way that he is the best thing that u can do is to ignore him, don't call him, don't let him no that ur thinkin about him, and do something to take ur mind off of him, and if u happen to run into him on the streets act like it ain't nothing u could be like oh hi or what's up but don't let him talk to long keep it movin. then before u know he will be callin u the way u want him to try it what harm can it do???? hope everything goes as planned. The way your feeling I call it love sick it's not the end of the world and u need to let him know that ur not stuck on him and u can function without him ur still breathing right????? ok then there u go. u don't need him to breathe then ur good to go. Why would u want him if u says he is mean to u??? I know love can make u do some crazy things just put ur foot down some guys like a woman to be in control but not too much where she's actin like she is the man.

Answer 4

I do know precisely the way you consider. A couple years in the past I was so depressed that everyday i might hope that I just would not get up the subsequent morning. Nothing excited me. Everything was pointless and hopeless. I felt as though I used to be worth nothing and as if nobody cared about me. But..... PLEASE don't provide in! Lifestyles is tough somtimes, thoroughly unfair and close to wholly in opposition to you at some points in existence. However, that is the place you have to keep strong. Think me, the feelings you're having correct now should not YOU. You're far extra priceless to each person else on this planet as a living respiratory person, and not a cold corpse to cry over. There are people that love you very much, and even if there weren't, there's a God that loves you very so much as well, and he created you for a rationale. Each lifestyles has first-class that means and is of the highest price, together with your possess. I quite care about you on this moment of your life, when you consider that i have been on your footwear, and it's a consistent soreness every and day-to-day. It hurts me to understand of alternative individuals experiencing this, and i truely need you to grasp that you're useful beyond measure. Just battle via it! I can't write ample on right here to express my hopes for you and to inspire you. I am 20 years historical and be aware of all too well of your experiences.

Answer 5

First of all, any guy that is mean to you, you should not be with, not go back with, period.

Second, you are feeling all of those feelings because you have been abused emotionally (and possibly physically). I strongly suggest you seek out some counseling ASAP.

Stay away from him, he is no good for you. I know it's hard, but believe me, you will understand once you receive counseling. You want to stop this pattern now, before you get with someone who beats you to death or emotionally abuses you so much you are a zombie. Take care.

Been there, done that and survived to tell about it.

Answer 6

How do you think you would effect those who love you if you were to end your life?
Your boyfriend should not make you feel bad about yourself. If you let him you will find yourself in a cycle of abuse both mentally and physically. A true partner will not let you get down on yourself.
You sound young and if you are you have a lot of life in front of you and you should cease the day, Carpe diem. Get the most out of life and don't let anyone stand in the way of your goals.

Answer 7

I know you love this guy, but this depression isn't worth it. Also listen to what you just said "he is mean to me."
No man is worth your tears, especially someone who hasn't treated you well. There are many guys out there, guys who can treat you like a queen. Losing him is not the end of the world. Know this, relax, try to find the positives about becoming single. Keep company with friends who are worth the time, and let time heal you slowly. You may not realize it, but you can move on. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 8

Calm Down -
Nothing is ever bad enough to harm yourself.
Your family means a lot to you I'm sure and you wouldnt want to hurt your family.
It probably doesnt seem like it now, but if he is mean to you. There is no reason to be with him in the first place. Somewhere out there, there is a wonderful guy who will treat you like a queen and give you everything you deserve.
Keep your head up and dont do anything you would regret.

Answer 9

I've been there. I'm there right now, actually. The only thing that ever helps me is spending time with people like friends and family. Get off the internet, call everyone in your contact list, find someone who always has something going on. Love got you here, and love can get you out.

Answer 10

Never ever let a man get to you like your letting him, Its his loss. You have all the power, never let him see you sweat. Get over it and go own with your life, Its to short to and there are to many men to worry about one.

Take a deep breath call a friend go out and live baby live.

Peace and blessings