I dont understand how single people in their 30's get up and go fight for another day. Sometimes I just want to lay in bed and not fight anymore. I dont see the point why I fight so hard to get ahead. For who? It's just me, and I have no one else so why do so?
2007-10-19 18:41:35 · 10 answers · asked by terminallyalone2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never know when you will meet that special someone. What if they are there when you decided to stay in bed that day. You would never know it. That's what did it for me knowing that one day I d meet my one and only.Whether it be pumping gas, or at the grocery store, Church, on the high way going to work. Keep that thought in your head and see if that helps. There is someone out there for all of us it just takes time.Keep your head up
2007-10-19 20:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hinging your self worth on being in a relationship with someone else is very unhealthy. Unless you happen to be lucky enough to meet a soulmate soon and by chance, you will spend a lot of your life unhappy.
You don't have to be like this.
First and foremost, everything that you do should be personally gratifying, in one way or another. You are responsible for the happiness of one person, you. If making other people happy makes you happy, that's great, but don't rely too heavily on it.
If you have the goal of picking one other person in particular and making them happy, you are setting yourself up for big problems.
Incidentally, there is evidence that Isaac Newton never married. Something tells me that he wasn't concerned about succeeding for someone elses sake.
For me, it's either live, and be alive, and enjoy it, or none of the above. Success is just a useful way to ensure that one can do whatever one wants to do that is enjoyable. Sometimes, doing what you enjoy allows you to succeed in other things as well.
That isn't to say that every now and then I don't have a difficult day, and have no motivation to get up out of bed. Or I do get out of bed, and spend a chunk of the day feeling like setting the world on fire, or myself, or both.
In the end, I've decided that the negativity is the aberration, and when I'm clear and sober, I do feel good about my life and place in the world.
2007-10-20 02:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by omikapsi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am single and don't have a special someone, I am in my 40's and I don't get up to fight, I get up because I have been given another day to LIVE. You wake up and you say it's good to wake up and I am grateful it's another day. I will live the life I have been given and everyone is all connected, I need others and others need me to help them in their lives and this helps me in my own life too. I don't have any children either and honestly sometimes I think what is there to really live for but somehow I just keep truckin and have faith and hope that are comforting. My life just isn't like the majority, it is very different.
2007-10-20 01:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Goldenrain 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The truth is that it really is about yourself first and foremost. Thats why the divorce rate is so high. We've all been told that in order to be complete we must have a soulmate or wife/husband - so thats what everyone thinks will fill that void we all feel in our hearts. And its why so many people are unhappy. Because they still have a void in there life.
You must find yourself first, and your passion. You must make yourself complete and figure out who you are, and then you can find out what you want in life.
True having that special someone there is great. But not if you havent figured yourself out yet - because that void you feel is who you really are and what your passion is.
2007-10-20 01:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by silvermouse5150 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 41. I finally met my soul-mate...he died while in surgery for a brain tumor earlier this year. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to face and I still miss him desperately...I wanted to die along with him and my family and friends were terribly worried that I actually might. Life is not easy,and I have had more than my share of hard knocks. Getting up and brushing yourself off and carrying on time after time beings to get a little tiring after awhile. But,since I am answering your question,obviously I found the inner strength to do it. You have to force yourself to get on with your life...sitting around bemoaning your fate isn't going to get you anywhere. Happiness is a journey,not a destination...it's not going to find you while you lie in bed torturing yourself. One step at a time...the past is gone,tomorrow never comes(when it does it is today!)...today is all you have...live for it-that's why they call it the present!
2007-10-20 01:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life kicks you in the teeth, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back in the fray. It's what living is all about. Cheer up! Once you've touch rock bottom, you've nowhere to go but up!
2007-10-20 01:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Faerie_Queene3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds familiar.
remember the saying Look out for number 1.
that's what you do.
and the earth still spins
the best things often happen when you least expect it !!!
2007-10-20 01:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't live your life just to be with someone. Learn to enjoy yourself first and then when you find that special someone. . . you'll be comfortable with them. Life goes on!
2007-10-20 01:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they hope that all they are doing will soon pay off with some person being interested in them, then they wont have to be alone
2007-10-20 01:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't know...... i'm confused
2007-10-20 01:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Katleen F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋