I've been told that I'm too nice. When I take a lady out, I know before hand I'm sexually attracted to them. But. out of a weird respect I find myself waiting for them to make the first move. Would ladies rather have a guy that's more agressive when it comes to taking the initiative?
2007-10-19 17:39:57 · 16 answers · asked by david 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
~You might be. Some girls/women are not the "make the first move" types no matter how attracted they are to you (or horny). If a guy had waited for me to make the first move, I'd still be a virgin.
2007-10-19 17:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends but it sounds to me like you have great respect for women and this is a admirable quality. However there is a thin line between respect and being scared. I know what your talking about there is a sexual tension between the first and second date. Should I make a move now or later???Should I let her make a move or go for it??? The answer in your case is to do whatever feels natural to you. Don't be forcibly aggresive and don't make a move on her unless it feels right. Theres always that one moment in the date that's perfect for making a move, wait for it. When it comes and she doesn't make a move on you you should go for it. I understand your a nice guy but if your attracted to her don't let fear hold you back. Just go for it man!
2007-10-20 00:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls always want the guy to make the first move. They practically expect it. You can let her know your sexually atracted to her without having to make any moves.
Take her to a movie and let her sit in your lap. It wont take long and she will know all too well that she has your undivided attention. Once she is aware how you feel you can take it a step further the next time you are alone together.
2007-10-20 00:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Joly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the girl. Especially if a girl is "experienced" and has been in a lot of relationships, chances are she has been through a lot of it and is used to guys making moves on her. Shy girls also won't make the moves by themselves, you need to let the ladies know that you're interested in doing stuff like that and if they respond then yeah. I think it's great that you wait for them because it's their own personal decision but just keep in mind we won't really do anything ourselves unless we KNOW the guy is interested.
2007-10-20 00:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Besch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well these days I really don't know, but since I have been married for several years I will tell you my wife likes it when I make the moves on her, sometime she will make a move on me.
It is possible in her mind she is saying why doesn't he make a move?
Hey here is an odd ball idea ask her!
2007-10-20 00:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of women wait for men to do the first move it doesnt even matter what it is if its going out.. if its ordering a beer... ANYTHING soo of course they want you to take control of a sexual situation be more agressive
2007-10-20 00:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by anthony!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im no ladies man, but i believe that the nice guy thing works for certain moments in relationships, i think almost every women no matter wut she says wants a man to jus act like a man, it turns them on, jus like when a women acts like a real women it turns us on...so ya i think you should be more aggressive when the moment calls for, and dont do it for her, thats jus cheesy, she will see right thro it, do it becuz its instinctive thats when its the best and not all creepy like, im not really buying into the respect issue,i think its an insecurity issue, look her in the eyes and let her know she is looking to the eyes of man, sometimes you have to create that heated moment and then jus let it flow, take control
2007-10-20 00:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by noyzwine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least start with a kiss, but nothing more. Yes, I like a man to take the initative. If they don't want it, they will let you know and you should respect it (and I am sure you will).
2007-10-20 00:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by Ida T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude. make the first move, but don't jump into it, "feel" it out first. slowley approach and read the body language. if you want a woman to make the first move buy a whore
2007-10-20 00:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its great of you. but you can still make the first move, just dont try to do it on the first date. if they make a move on the first date- go for it...
2007-10-20 00:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by kelly n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋