I can't wait until the day of my wedding.
I can't wait until I get my first house.
I can't wait until I can watch my child grow up.
I can't wait to be a cool mom.
I can't wait to be a grandma who does crafts with their grand babies.
I can't wait until I get to be old so I can reflect on my life.
am I the only one who feels like your much older than you really are?
I feel as if I am 20 years old traped in a 13 years body.
I want to be able to live a life on my own.
So for now I am waiting to be grown up.
Does anyone els feel the same way?
2007-10-19 17:34:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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I am living life for now and I do have a life thank u very much a$$*****. and thanx to all of ya'll who wished me luck, and I wrote that just to write it down, I love my life right now but it seem's like other people just don't get it (as in how life should be lived)
2007-10-21 14:17:34 · update #1
slow down trust me you are not ready yet. kid.... you will mess up bad... no kids till you can a ford it .and you are not one any more.Waite
2007-10-19 17:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by steven d 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
LOL Ashley! Your dreaming about your life... Thats a normal thing for a young girl. It's called growing up sweetie. IF I can give you alittle advice, don't be in such a rush to grow up. Enjoy being 13. Because you are only this age once in your life. I felt exactly like you when I was your age. I can remember the type of life I wanted to have. Turned out much much different than I had anticipated. My life has been much more rewarding than I could ever imagine. I wish you much joy in your growth. Good luck.
2007-10-20 07:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little advice from a 26-year-old married woman:
Life happens faster than you think. You need to enjoy high school, college, starting that first real job, finding out who you are, and becoming an independent woman. You need to learn to be strong without a man and realize what life is about.
Marriage is work. Hard work. I love my husband more than anything but I tell you, maintaining a home, managing bills, car repairs, moving, saving money, looking into buying a home, dealing with family issues, dealing with schedule conflicts and demands from work, etc, it takes a toll on you. I have responsibilities and demands coming at me left and right. I love being married but there's a lot more to it than I love yous and romance.
A wedding is one day. A marriage is a lifetime. A house takes time and money and lots of it. A child is hard work and not come play thing you can return. Cool moms don't exist in the grand theory we want them to.You still have to the authoritative person. Being old is not as fun as you think. Health issues, immobility, loss of independence.
Just please, SLOW DOWN and take life day by day. The more you spend time in the clouds, the more of life you're going to miss while you're young. Fill your head and heart with memories and a scrapbook with all the pictures and knickknacks. Trust me, you don't want to spend life dreaming. It's fun to do but you miss out on great things.
Enjoy being 13!
2007-10-20 12:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, almost none of those thing happen at 20 years old (if you can avoid it. Except the house the sooner you start on that the better)
Slow down, enjoy being a kid. I know you can't wait, but all the things you talk about are big responsibilites and hard work. You will be exhausted and worried about how you are going to finance all these thing. It isn't like at home where mum and dad pay for everything.
I have things that I can't wait for but I still live my life in the present.
Plan and dream but don't forget to live.
2007-10-20 00:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey...I totally know how you feel...I can't wait for all those things either! I'm only 19, but I realize now that I think waiting is one of my favourite parts of life, because waiting gives you hope and excitement and passion for life. Not that you won't have those things later, but once the waiting is over....those things that you waited for are always gone in a flash. So enjoy waiting....even when it's driving you crazy with anticipation...because there is too much going on now that you don't want to have realized you missed out on later. I wish you a beautiful wedding, the perfect first house for you, healthy children to watch grow, the most fun time being a mom, tons of creative ideas for your grandchildren, and an awesome life to reflect on when you're old!!....but in perfect timing when you're ready for them all. So yes, to answer your question, I feel the same way as you, but it really is such a cool feeling!!
2007-10-20 00:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What makes you need to grow up so fast? You are young. Go out and see the world. Travel (ex. Europe). Meet new interesting people. Try new foods. Discover new experiences. Have you ever gone sky diving? Ever flown to foreign country for the weekend? Scene an ancient city? Have you seen a tropical rain forest? There are so many things to do yet!
What makes you need to get a short mommy hair cut and drive around a soccer limo with no freedom after work. Eating out will mean finding a McDonalds with a play center. Do you like sleep? There's no dignity in sporting a mommy haircut.
Enjoy your youth while you still have it. Trust me, you don't want to have any regrets. You don't have to let your hormones determine your happiness. I kid.
Good luck.
2007-10-20 05:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wish to grow up before you have to. When you finally are grown, you'll wish you were young.
With a wedding, comes a marriage and committment to someone else. With that comes in-laws and obligatory holidays and birthdays
With a first house comes a mortgage, and first a FULL TIME job, then comes bills, grocery money, repairs, etc.
With a child comes a strain on your wallet. Late nights when the kid is sick, homework help, school plays, you can't go out with friends when you have a child..
A "cool mom" isn't something you'll want to be. You need to be a parent, NOT a best friend. A child isn't something you dress up and parade around and hope "likes" you and "thinks" your cool. If you want a kid to make you feel "worthy" then you aren't ready to be a parent.
When you are old, you will not be young. Forget about running around. You might have health problems.
Reflect Back on your Life----You mean when you are ready to die.
2007-10-20 01:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Je Adore 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are an "old soul" trapped in a young body.
Enjoy each day to the fullest as to never wish you had done something else. Seize each day, in temperance and joy! Enjoy the sweetness of life!
I too was/am like you. And I enjoy every second with my husband, my children, teaching, living and loving. For me, life is intoxicating and exhilarating. I will someday be an old lady with a purple hat in a sea of brown and black hats!
Remember that you are already reflecting on life. If everyone did that and followed your lead, this world would be a much better place... Scream out, "I gotta be me", and don't sacrifice it to the masses that balk transcendentalism and thriving!
It was joyous to read your uplifting musings! Good Luck!
2007-10-20 00:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by feliciathefierce 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 right now and about to get married, and I'm still waiting for life to catch up with me :) You sound really mature for your age (I was the same way LOL). Trust me, there's a natural progression to life and you should enjoy being 13 while you still can. 20 will come soon enough!
2007-10-20 16:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's normal for a young girl, but don't let your restlessness allow you to make a poor decision. Many people get married way too soon and get into relationships with the wrong people. Give yourself time to grow up and know what you are looking for in a husband. Good luck and keep dreaming, he is probably thinking of you too.
2007-10-20 00:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep. I'm 17 and waiting too. But I am okay with waiting; in the end, it will have been a very good thing. I am so excited to do all the things you mentioned! (Especially getting married!)
But don't get so focused on your future that you forget about your now. What you do everyday NOW affects every aspect of your future: your husband, your kids, grandkids, etc. Live your life for today, and live it wisely.
2007-10-20 00:38:41 · answer #11 · answered by Skylar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋