is your relationship perfect?
is there such thing as a perfect relationship? and if not, why are you still in the relationship if there are things that aren't right?
my bf lied to me...so i ended it. but now i'm thinking "well theres no such thing as a perfect relationship...maybe lies are ok in a relationship?"
2007-10-19 17:25:38 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in love, and perfect relationships are fictional. However, don't second guess yourself. There are plenty of guys out there who won't lie to you. Have some self respect. This guy is NOT worth your time.
2007-10-19 17:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My relationship is not perfect.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. I'm still in the relationship because I love this woman. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. The relationship is not perfect because we as individuals never will be. I have my faults - she has hers. And we all make mistakes.
Yes. Lies are ok, but it depends on the lie. "It's your baby" is a cruel, evel @$$ lie. However, telling your hubby or b/f that you spent $80 at the mall, when you really spent $180, isn't SO bad. It's not the healthiest thing, financially, but then isn't really going to kill anyone either.
2007-10-19 17:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by gabound75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really are no such things as perfect relationships (meaning no fights, etc). Anyone who says they're truly in a perfect relationship is just fooling themselves and are not being real with themselves or their mates. There's some things you can tolerate in a relationship when you really love that person, like the small silly arguments that you end up talking and laughing about later. He lied though...was what he lied about really serious? Did he lie about something that he was just embarrassed to tell u about? Or did he lie about not cheating? It sorta depends on what he lied about here..I wouldn't dump him for lying about something that he was just embarrassed to tell u and it wasn't really serious but if he lied about something really bad, I think u made the right decision. There's a thin line between being understanding and just being a fool..
2007-10-19 17:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by **STAR** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by no means it is not lol. we have a lot of problems.
and i dont think there is a such thing as a perfect relationship, mainly because i've never seen one except on tv and in my dreams lol. and i'm still with the person i'm with because even though not EVERYTHING'S right, there's a lot of things that are, and because i think in no matter what relationship i'm in, if it's a healthy one, not everything's going to be right because that's just the nature of things, at least for me. there will always be disagreements between people. and lies are never "okay". in my relationship, we both value honesty above all else, we set that as a ground rule from the beginning; we always tell each other what we mean, and always the truth
2007-10-19 17:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Nacho Chacho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in perfect relationships BUT I believe that any man I'm with better respect me and treat me well or else he's out the door. Lies that are hurtful and deceitful are NOT okay. Don't settle for less because you are lonely or scared you may never get another bf. Respect yourself and you will attract the type of men that respect you as well. However, if it was a little lie about something not important (such as he's planning a surprise birthday party for you and lied to throw you off track), that's different. I'm still in my relationship because I wanted a man that would be a good father, holds steady employment, wouldn't drown us in debt, would respect my family, and treat me well. Is he perfect? Nope. Not by a l-o-n-g shot! But he still measures up to my list and we work out our problems. Sometimes very loudly, but we work at it!
2007-10-19 17:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Apple Tart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you`re right. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. But first what did he lie about? But hey, I think you should still stay separated. You 2 have to learn to trust each other with ALL your hearts. =) <3
2007-10-19 17:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by ISM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definately no such thing as a perfect relationship. I love my husband dearly and would be devastated if anything happened to him (e.g., sudden death or he left me), but by the same token he drives me absolutely crazy on a routine basis. The key is that we have good, open communication, and we have (and express) a lot of affection for each other. And we both have a sense of humor. If he lied to me, it would depend on the lie. For example, if he cheated on me and lied and I found out, we would be done. But if he lied about something sort of stupid, like whether or not he sneaked a cigarette, then I would be annoyed but I would forgive him. You have to know what your boundaries are, and let him know, and he he crosses them, then you should end it. If he stays within your range of acceptable behaviors, then forgive him. I hope that helps.
2007-10-19 17:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Corozal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is no such thing as a perfect relationship but excessive lying to your significant other is definitely a no no. It's one thing to say you like the new outfit he/she bought when you don't, it's quite another to lie about your whereabouts on a regular basis or your intentions and feelings towards the other person. I say right on if the lie was hurtful or was about something major. What was the lie?
2007-10-19 17:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Shonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there's no such thing as a perfect relationahip but there is a perfect couple..i no this by expiriance.
i mean is ok to lie once in a while but it depends on what is on
thats why honesty is always good in a relationship also trust if you have this and your love is true then is a ment to be..
i started from best friends to a relationship and you got to trust me true love exsist!
2007-10-19 17:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No relationship is perfect. But there are things called respect, honesty, and loyalty. I've been in a relationship for over 13 years. We did live together, but I moved out. But we still love each other, and not interested in anyone else. Lies are never good.
2007-10-19 17:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No lies are not OK. Honesty is the only policy. Now I'm not talking about, Honey were going to the movies tonight only to surprise her with something else, I'm talking about down right deceit.
And no there is no perfect relationship. Everything must be worked at. We are an evolving and growing animal and we change. Relationships have to grow and change as well.
2007-10-19 17:29:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋