She apparantly forgot her litter box training and was jumping up in my boys crib like she owned the world. Sadly we had to give her up to a shelter. Is this typical cat stuff? We really tried to make things work. we loved her.. but it really came down to a choice between a kid and a cat. Was I just a bad kitty dad?
2007-10-19 17:08:45 · 8 answers · asked by Ralishev 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
Cats are very sensitive to change , and a baby is a BIG change, not only was there a new thing with new smells and noises in the house but I am sure that the kitty was not getting as much attention as before. As time went on , and you started paying more attention to the kitty and he got used to all the newness I think things would have gone back to normal.
2007-10-19 17:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by Meow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Working in a shelter for over a year, I've seen many kitties come in for the same reason. Cats get stressed out too, just like us. She wanted attention, and knew that she was no longer "the baby". As far as you being a bad "kitty dad", I think you did the right thing. If you and your wife didn't have the time to spend with her, then she deserves a new home. Please, though, if you think in the future of taking in a pet, consider all of the risks and problems that may be involved, before you bring it home. Pets are family members, like children, and deserve responsible owners.
2007-10-20 01:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by ~Jenn~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even Kitty's Get the Blues.
Pets are a lot like kids in many ways - they get a case of the jealousy's when there's a new arrival (pet or human) in the home. Dogs can get moody and cats can get a case of the nerves - among other things.
I have a Black Norwegian Forest cat for a few years now, and than I brought home my sister's dog (sis died from throat cancer), but she had taught her dog to kill cats when he was younger - don't ask me why, I don't know why. (He doesn't even TRY that anymore).
The cat must have picked up a vibe, if you will, about his former life, and I noticed she was losing her hair on her back, and on her back legs - it was just falling out. Her diet was fine, she wasn't ill.
I took her to the vet and had her checked out. The Vet questioned about anything NEW in the home. It was the NEW dog.
I just spent a little extra time with her and told her about the dog's past behaviour, and how that was SO NOT HAPPENING here in my home, and she's fine now. The confidance in my voice must have given her the assurance she needed, that all would be well.
Her hair has all grown back and everything is back to "normal" - as normal as life can be when living with pets I guess. I wouldn't have it any other way. Life would seem empty.
No - the NEW dog never tries to harm either one of my cats. In my home we HAVE to get along peacefully - no questions asked - I'm the Top Dog around here, Ha ha!
My pets all get the Love, Food, Water, and Care they need.
As for being a "bad kitty dad" Hm mm!? Under the circumstances - You probably made the correct choice as long as kitty gets a good home, although a greater effort on your part would have worked as well - or better. Pets adjust to new additions in the family - like kids do - only better.
But there's no point in beating yourself up now though - what's done is done.
Someone suggested "Punishment" Oh my gawd - you can't punish for loneliness, fear and insecurities! NO, NO PUNISHING - that's crazy! Genuine love, understanding, care and patience always works the best - when it's done properly - Plus, you gain the rewards.
There's really no good point in having a pet or child, for anyone, if they don't have the proper time and energies for it. Love is a choice and so is care, and these require proper energies.
It tears me up when people neglect their Pets (like tying their dogs out and leaving them there 24/7, or allowing UN-NEUTERED cats out and about to reproduce more unwanted life). They did, after all, adopt them and take them into their lives. They made a committment, then went back on it. People can be such hypocrits.
Realize that you probably did the proper thing - for Kitty, your child, and yourself as well - You won't be pulling your hair out - over that at least.
If you ever get another Pet - Remember, it's part of your family, learn to treat it as such.
REMEMBER - Pets and Children are a RESPONSIBILITY not a NOVELTY. They are meant to be enjoyed and cherished.
Everything living needs Love, Care, and Time well spent with it. Take good care of that baby. It's suppossed to grow up to be someone special someday. Good Luck.
2007-10-20 01:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lucifers Child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was jealous. Did you try punishment of any kind at all? besides giving her up. I see my cats as a part of the family and I'd try something else like keeping the kitty in a medium size cage or kennel before giving my cat up. you just didnt try hard enough and its pathetic
2007-10-20 00:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it was probably jealous as it was not getting the same amount of attention it was before your son was born. i know it sounds crazy but animals can be bothered by something like that
2007-10-20 00:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by hermitofnorthdome 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the cat probably got so excited about a new life.
2007-10-20 00:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Apprentice Ghost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was simply jealous. you should have given it more time to adjust.
2007-10-20 00:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yah she was.
2007-10-20 00:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by circus0s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋