I've known this girl for 2 and half years and we both use to talk a lot to each other. This year (9th grade) she has suddenly stopped talking to me. I have on class with her, but she sits on the other side of the room. I think she stares at me everyday, but doesn't even say the "hi" or anything to me. She has said she is very busy with homework and other things, but it has been like 2-3 weeks that she actually has said a word to me. I think she knows that I like her more than a friend. I told her that 2 years ago, but she said she was too young to date. Also, I have heartache just thinking why is she acting like this toward me. She looks in my opinion sad or depressed or something is bugging her. What should I do? Also, why is she acting this way? Please Help!!!! Thanks to people who reply to this question
2007-10-19 16:54:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are so many things that could be going on her with her. You are both so young, I encourage you to chalk up her attitude to immaturity and lack of the emotional tools to just tell you what is going on with her. I also encourage you to continue to be receptive to her, don't cut her off, acknowledge her when you can--and try not to take this personal. If it were me, I'd just write her a simple note that said something like, "Hey, I miss talking to you. I don't know why you've stopped talking to me but if you ever want to talk again, I'm here. I'm still your friend but I am going to try and respect that, for whatever reason, you want to step back from our friendship." And then, except for simple hello's and acknowledgement (don't ignore her), I'd step back and let her work through whatever it is she's going through. If there is something going on with her, if she is depressed, it might be comforting to her to know that you are still there for her when she's ready to communicate again.
2007-10-19 17:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gidget 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you can tell why she is acting the way she is. Could you approach her and say you've been friends for so long it concerns you that she doesn't want to even say hello? Tell her that it seems like something is bothering her and ask if there is anything you could do. Tell her you think she's great and have always enjoyed talking to her in the past. That's about the most you can do. See how she reacts to your putting yourself out there like that. If she goes into the negative zone, I think you'll just have to walk away, but at least you won't be left guessing. Good Luck!
2007-10-19 17:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Wildflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
High school and hormones are stressing her out. Take her at her word that she is too young to date. Just be a good friend and smile at her. Keep being a good friend and she will come around. She could be thinking the same thing about you, so just smile and say "hi" even though she may not have the focus or energy to respond yet. Things will get better. You're a cool dude. Peace.
2007-10-19 16:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go to her and let her know that if she ever need you to talk or anything like that, you will be there for her. After you do that leave it alone, don't talk to her or nothing. When she see that you are not paying her no attention, she will go and see how she can start talking to you again. If she is having some kind of problem she will remember that she can count on you. Don't worry anymore. Time will tell. I can tell you will be a great husband one day.
Hope everything goes well..
2007-10-19 17:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high school relationships are always rough. just be honest with her about how you feel and let her know you are there to talk about any problems she has thats what good friends are for. tell her you don't mean to pry just that you noticed she isnt her usual self and you were concerned that she might need a good friend. good friends can move in for the kill and get a relationship especially if they are there for them when they need help the most and it sounds like this girl needs someone to talk to her. be nice and if she doesnt accept that then step back and tell her you will be there when she wants to open up you will always be around for that! good luck with it!
2007-10-19 16:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its poss that she mightve heard something nasty about you behind ur back, and is now unsure of how she should act around you...think-are there any nasty rumour starters around? i hope this isnt right!!
also, she may have realised that she likes you back, and becasue she is so young has no idea how to act around u or express herself (the fact that she stares at u indicates she likes what she sees!!)
ask her why shes being a *****. but probs not that forward. id tell her that ur offer of liking her is still up for grabs and let her think about it for a while. if she still is being cold or unsure as to her feelings, give her more time or let her go - u cant spend all ur life on a chick who doesnt know what she wants!! :)
2007-10-19 17:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Ariel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
9th grade and your carrying on like old people !
Get a life , have fun and stop this "I wanna get married" attitude .
Geeees , I'd move to another town if someone was that intense .
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2007-10-19 16:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
walk up and ask her to go to a park with you or to watch a movie.
2007-10-19 16:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No Interest...move on
2007-10-19 16:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My Boy.. Every Girl does this same.. Dont be very posasive with any girls......
2007-10-19 16:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by ragupathy k 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋