It's not as easy as it sounds. It was my first time feeling that way about anyone and I just can't move on.... i want to but its harder than I thought... can someone, anyone give me advice???
2007-10-19 16:27:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is always the hardest with your first love. I feel your pain, I never felt a hurt like that until my first love and I broke up. Kind of feels like you just stepped out of a nightmere. Honey, there is nothing you can do except let time heal the wounds. Its like a funeral or something, it really is a mourning process. Not something you can wake up the next day and say okay, i'm all better, you know? I highly suggest that you NOT jump back into a relationship, that would be the worst thing you could do right now, you are not ready. What you can do is (when you are ready to be around people again) find a positive support group, family, friends. You need to just keep yourself busy and keep your mind off of that person. Start hanging out with those people instead of sitting at home sad. Start a new hobby or find out what makes you happy. Start going to the gym. Get a make over to celebrate a "new you", plus a full day of pampering would be really nice as well. Take down all the pictures of you and him so you won't look at them and be sad (maybe you aren't ready for that yet either). What really used to help me and maybe this sounds stupid, but step back and look at all the negative things about that person....you know things you didn't like about the relationship...kind of helps you feel like you are better off. Just hang on and have friends and family help you through. That person was cut out of your heart, so it is a big wound to heal, but know that your wound will slowly heal, all in good time. Every day gets a little bit better.
2007-10-19 16:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had 5 answers to your question in a couple of minutes so that right there shows you that everyone goes through this at least once in their life. It hurts I know. Sometimes I could have sworn my broken heart actually hurt!
The best way to deal with it is to do everything you can to not see him or hear about him and what he's doing, etc. Go to different places and do different things than you did with him. It is hard to let go and you may want to go to the places you have memories but it won't help you and will only set you back on any progress you've made so try not to do it.
Don't stay home and dwell on it. Get out and exercise. Walk, bike, anything---it helps you feel better. Remind yourself that one day you will be completely over this and chances are when you find the guy you will end up with (the nice one who will treat you the way you deserve) you will be so glad you didn't end up with the jerk who hurt you.
Good luck!! We've all been there and gotten past it and you can too. Take care.
2007-10-19 16:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember my first heartbreak clearly and it's been almost 15 years ago. It was awful. I cried a lot and just could not understand. It took me forever to get over it, but I did write and draw a lot. I came up with some amazing artwork during that very blue time in my life.
Heartbreak never gets easier....but the first one sucks the most. Keep in mind that you will get over this hurt. I hope you feel better soon. Just try and be as creative as you can. Just get it all out in an art form.
2007-10-19 16:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by AshP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't easy to get over something like this. Only time will heal your broken heart. Just try to keep yourself busy and not remind yourself of the situation. Yes I know it's hard not to think about it but just try. Don't bottle up your emotions if you have to cry, then cry. Talk with close friends really helps to just let it out. Sometimes things aren't meant to be but it just means that something better is coming your way.
2007-10-19 16:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had my heartbroken many times...it doesnt get any easier the second time around...you just need time...my first ''love'' cheated on my with my best friend...that hurt...it took a long time to get over it...cry a little and move on the best you can...it wont be easy...just make sure you have someone to talk to...someone to be there for you in this time of need...just take you time...good luck...i hope you feel better
2007-10-19 16:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you're gonna HATE what im going to say, but dont disregard it JUST because it's not what you want to hear. it's the truth. everyone has to go through heartbreak eventually. and all wounds heal the same: over time. and it sucks because you know you HAVE to wait. like if you break a bone, theres a cast and meds to help it along, but you still have to wait it out. moving on is hard too. just make sure you dont rebound to another person because that's not fair to them and will just get you in a mess. just wait it out. someone else may eventually catch your eye (as impossible as that seems at the moment, its very possible. not soon, but possible). and this is life! your first big roadblock in this area called your love-life. the first one is probably the hardest to get over, know that. and it will make you stronger. just remember to see everything from the BIG PICTURE, which means, look at your life as a whole. if you focus in on something, it will look HUGE. but if you back up, and look at the whole picture, it's really not so big after all. and be nice to yourself! go do something you love and spend time on yourself
2007-10-19 16:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by lollibee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw, i can understand that completely i went through the same thing about a year and a half ago. the first thing you should do is something i never did, you should talk about and cry. i cried a little but i tried holding it in it hurt the worst and talking will help you get it out of your system so you dont think about it as much. or you can always eat some icecream or chocolate or something sweet thats always fun. but you should do both.i hope you feel better, you can get through this!
2007-10-19 16:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time with your family and try to be around people you love. They will always be there to talk and to give you a shoulder to cry on. Plus you will be busy hearing all there drama and it help pass the time and let you heal from your own drama. But its part of life, you just have to move on and dont dwell on it, or you can go crazy.
2007-10-19 16:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its very hard
But you gotta know that theres plenty of other guys out there way better than the one before!
Its hard trying to get over a break up i know but
all i can tell you is move on... you cant be miserable just because ONE person isnt with you anymore!
Dont let that one person ruin your life
Move on..
2007-10-19 16:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by [[♥]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...Pain builds character - thats automatic.
Now for the painful part. It's going to hurt-that's normal.
First true loves are a very important part in what it's all about regarding the foundation to true strong future relationships.
Hold your head high- and this too will pass...Really...
2007-10-19 16:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sailon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋