I'm really want to help my friend, 17.. I just don't know what to tell her.
K, She was with her bf for about 8 months and just about a month ago they broke up, she broke up w/ him cuz she started to realize that she didnt really feel the same way about him that she used to.. plus she had a lot going on w/ her family, her father is sick and shes having trouble w/ our other friends that she figured a boyfriend was just too much extra to deal with at the time, and she didnt want to have to put him through all that.
But now, I've noticed shes beendown alot lately, thinking about him, she said she really misses him, little things always remind her of him. but she knows getting back 2gether with him probly isnt the best thing for her at the time andsays that he doesnt need to deal withsomebody in as tough a time as her.
But just, what can I say to her?, Ive never had a boyfriend before so I really dont know how she feels, and i really dont know how to put how i feel into words..
2007-10-19 15:33:27 · 6 answers · asked by melloyellow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but can you please help me, I really hate seeing her feeling like this and I want to try and help but I have no experience with it.. so do u know what I can say to her?
2007-10-19 15:34:15 · update #1
Tell her to get back together with him and let HIM decide what he's capable of dealing with.
2007-10-19 15:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing here, but, is it possible that they were sexually active? If she has "a lot going on w/her family" and her boyfriend is "too much extra to deal with".. could the sexual aspect be what she means by that? Maybe he was pressuring her and she didn't fall for it, but she still likes him anyway. If so, then of course she misses him, but is smart to stay "single". If she is simply trying to spare HIM from HER problems, then he should be the one to decide if he wants to deal with them. Just remember that, b/c she misses him and talks about him, doesn't necessarily mean that she wants to go back with him. The grass is always greener.... Just listen when she gets teary eyed and talks about him. She really just wants to be able to talk. About him, her stuff at home, whatever... girls talk. It's what we do. So you just listen. She may be a little lonely, and wondering if she made a mistake. That's normal. And if in the course of your conversations, you ask her, "are you lonely now?" or "do you wish you were back together?" it's okay whatever she says. You can tell her it's perfectly normal to be lonely or wonder if she made a mistake... it doesn't mean she did...
2007-10-19 22:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by victronia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now hear this: is your friend miserable because she truly wants him back, or does she just miss the attention that a boyfriend brings? Think about this and mention it to your friend. Suggest that they could be....say....really REALLY good friends (if the breakup wasn't super-horrible) and maybe that might cheer her up. In the meantime, spend time with her, like going to the movies or shopping. Try to get her mind of the guy and in time, things will hopefully work out for everyone. The best thing for a friend in a time like this is her bestie to support her through the hard times!
Best of luck, and let your friend know you are always there for her!
dumbblonde xoxox
2007-10-19 22:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Sunny ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him only made things worse... she really liked him and it made her miss him. Causing more trouble. She should get back together with him. The whole reason of being in a relationship is to have someone there right? she got her boyfriend so he can help her through tough times... well, this is a tough time and she dropped the person that has that job to help get her through....
2007-10-19 22:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's going through a lot like you said, this is happening to a friend of mine. she's contemplating breaking up with boyfriend of six months. but all you can do is be there for her and hope she figures it out
go up to her and hug her, take her out for girls night or something
2007-10-19 22:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by K.I.S.S. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think d best thing u can do is b whit her always. even do u haven't been boy friend yet. but you can share ur thing in common. bonding whit her. try to fell her thet it's not the end of her life instend fucos to her family and her friend.
2007-10-19 22:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋