I just met this guy. He asked me to lunch, picked the place and made the reservation. The conversation and laughter flowed easily. Lunch lasted almost two hours. The check comes, he paid. He asked me what I was doing this weekend and made some suggestions for things we could do. I reacted positively and say that sounds great. He walked me out we continued to talk for a few mintues, then said goodbye. it was a great first meeting. Everything went smoothly. An hour later, I sent him an email saying thank you for lunch, let's hang out again soon, and here's a link to that website we were talking about. That was on Wednesday. He didn't respond until the next day, saying thank you for the link and you had fun at lunch. I responds saying you're welcome. It's now Friday night, and I still hasn't heard anything else from him. Was he just being polite about getting together again?
2007-10-19 15:21:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a curious situation. However, lets look at the time line for a minute. This was Wednesday and now it is Friday. According to you, he responded [the next day] on Thursday. You stated you just met this guy and you most likely have no idea what his schedule might be or who else he may or not be seeing.
It is possible that he had a great time with you and doesn't want to impose himself on you too quickly, as in his opinion might alert you that he is desperate. Perhaps he wants to take this a little bit slow to give both of you time to consider what may or may not happen in the future.
It is apparent that he was polite as you stated, and it seems to be the case that he did have a great time with you since he did return your email. Neither of us can second guess him regarding his not contacting you tonight. Any host of things could have prevented that.
You asked for an opinion; not advice, but I will give that to you. I would hang low and wait for him to contact you. You will then know for sure how he feels about you. If you take the initiative, you would not be certain on how he feels on his end. If he does want to see you again, you will definitely know it. If he does not contact you, then chalk it up to a nice date and move on.
Your email to him was obligatory because he bought you lunch, and his response was socially correct. I believe that you expecting him to immediately contact you after that is not warranted, although I realize your expectations. You never know, he may be sitting at home wanting to contact you and thinking maybe he shouldn't so soon. At this point, we just don't know what he is going through; just as he does not know what you are.
Give this a little more time.
2007-10-19 15:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Boomer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's polite, and then there's " I love you and want to marry you!" type. By the sound of that, he might actually be doing the second one but it sounded like he was doing the first one in the beginning and then went into the second one at the end.
2007-10-19 15:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mythbuster33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you with something to think about and that would be him. It's like a suspense thriller leaving you wanting more. Instead of thinking about him just go out and do your thing. I've always found this messed up that people do that to others. If he can't even follow up as he said he was just messing wih your head.
2007-10-19 15:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just following some of the rules guys have to not look desperate. Maybe he is just trying to make it look like he isn't desperate so you won't think that he is clingy. From the sounds of it, he really likes you. I wouldn't sweat it if I were you. I'm sure he will call.
2007-10-19 15:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible he was just being nice, but don't give up hope yet. To me, it seems like time flows different for men. 3 women days = 1 man day or something. lol
2007-10-19 15:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by afaithinthedark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u responded wayy too soon made you look desperate. its his initial job to get back to you in a day or two. he might not get back to you at all about this weekend to play it cool and you might hear from him early next week or the week after.
2007-10-19 15:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by nonphysical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt the "friend vibe" .. but it does sound like he was just being nice... if he really wanted to hang out, he would have probably called you.. or if he doesnt have your number, he would have asked you for it.
2007-10-19 15:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he was being a little more than 'just polite'
i think hes trying to keep his cool
good luck with coolio
2007-10-19 15:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Cat K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything was perfect but you din"t put out. next time don"t be so bashful you might git further.
2007-10-19 15:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but it does sound like it.
2007-10-19 15:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋