I'm really worried that I'm a 'sack of potatoes' in bed! I just don't know how you're supposed to move! I've never had the guts to ask a guy but I suspect it may explain why I'm always getting dumped.
2007-10-19 14:38:44 · 23 answers · asked by hatty m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
asked and answered your question youself!
2007-10-19 14:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing it missionary, really.
Try changing it around, going on top, doggy etc.
If you don't know how to move or what to do, maybe look at some porn or something (but only for ideas! Porn does NOT accurately reflect a healthy sexual relationship!!!). Once you get some ideas, just do what feels good to you.
And, you DO need to get the guts to ask. If you don't feel you can talk to your guy about sex, then wtf are you DOING having SEX with him? If you feel you can't ask him without him laughing or something, then you should probably dump him, because you should be able to be completely honest with your partner.
Another thing you could do is to say 'show me how you like it' or 'Tell me exactly what you want me to do' or something, and let him take charge (if he is the type), you might find out how to really blow his mind that way.
Most of all have fun, if sex isn't fun to you, then there is really something wrong.
2007-10-19 21:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My "critical thinking" tell me that it is best for people to kind of hang out with people their own age and experience level.
It is really an individual & spontaneous response thing...(some might beg to differ). It isn't choregraphed like dancing. More partners do not make you a pro.
The beauty of being with someone you have strong feelings for and have established some good communication with...ALLOWS you to feel comfortable with them. "IT" is something to explore together ...to trust and to be spontaneous with. If you teach and direct about "yourself"...he will feel comfortable to do the same. Mother Nature is ever present...she won't let you down.
It is important NOT to feel like you have to perform or be compared to others (that is why I think... "same level of experience and age would be important"). It has far more meaning and comfortability ...when it is an expression of love. The brain and heart are the biggest and most important sex organs.
You have to be responsible...you have to be on birth control and you have to use condoms...ALWAYS!
That is my BEST ANSWER! There is nothing wrong with you!
2007-10-19 22:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Steve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get a book. Go on Amazon, there are tons. If you care about pleasing your man it will show. Second, if it feels good to you, it feels good to him. When he comes in, you rub yourself against him. Squeeze like you're trying noto pee.
Are you always getting dumped because you sleep around and guys are using you for sex? No offense, I only ask because you wonder if you're crap in bed and that's why you get dumped.
2007-10-19 21:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by escher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are always getting dumped because you keep hopping in bed. Wait for a while before giving it up, as the saying goes: "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?" People won't take you serious unless you take yourself serious. If you act like a ho, that is how you'll be treated. Women have the awesome power to control their relationships.
Got to go, my wife is calling. (Smile)
WOO
2007-10-19 21:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Reading improves a lot. If someone doesn't act the same towards you when your in the sack. Try something new and see what happens
2007-10-19 21:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you are bad in bed then you probably are. You should take some X and see how it goes then. j/k
But if you go to books a million, there is a whole section on sex books. Or you can learn from a porno.
2007-10-19 21:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by ~Jeeya~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about any other guys out there but I would like it if the women would initiate and would maybe suggest something different.I'm tired of always getting things going and doing the same things.
2007-10-19 21:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by sasyone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then go get a book or something and try to learn. If all you do is go to bed with guys, they're probably just bored. Be interested and you'll be interesting.
2007-10-19 21:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's quite a lame reason to get dumped for.
Maybe your past partners are JERKS?
2007-10-19 21:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suspect that may not be the case --- the guys may just be looking for sex rather than getting to know you and no one is truly "crap" --- it may be that you have just not met someone who truly excites you in the bedroom --- its not you its the guys ---- have fun
2007-10-19 21:43:20 · answer #11 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋