I'm 17. Me & Jared have been "talking" or "unofficially dating" for 8 months now, starting from the end of last school year. Then summer hit, we didn't see each other for 3 months b/c of camps out of state. But we kept in touch. Now that school's started again, we've gotten to see each other for the past 1 1/2 months.
Our friends ask, "So what's with you and Jared?" or they ask him, "what's with you and Kristen?" & we both reply with, "I dont know."
Then a couple friends asked him 2 days ago, "Do you still like her?" Jared said, "Yes I do still really like her, I'm just not sure she still likes me & I don't know if she wants to be in a relationship, but it's all in her hands." So they came back & told me & urged me to talk to Jared about us.
Today I said to him, "our friends told me what you guys talked about regarding us." & he said he really didn't remember. But did he really not? It seems he might have pretended to forget. But I dont see why he would... I dont get it! help!
2007-10-19 14:05:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Instead of bringing your friends into this, you should confront him about the situation / relationship.
Tell him what you want - if you want a relationship tell him that. If you don't, you should tell him that as well.
He might just be embarrassed for talking to your friends about it, and not to you!
2007-10-19 14:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by sharky.mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he's just worried about what you might feel. And knowing some guys, it's natural for them to remain oblivious or "dumb" instead of risking themselves. I think that Jared just doesn't want to risk getting rejected, so he won't say anything and when you asked him about it, he wanted to avoid the question by saying that he forgot.
But if you really want something, then i suppose you could ask him yourself what he feels about you. If the feeling is mutual, then it could come as a relief to both of you. However, i can't make any promises about the situation, so there's also a possibility that it would get really awkward being together.
Personally, I would rather risk the chance then live in doubt. If the worst happens, then you could start moving on, yet if the best happens, then something good finally happened.
2007-10-19 21:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by mayo_maco2008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 years of age you have lots of time to deal with this issue. If he doesn't remember, then choose to believe him, still continue talking and see how you feel. He will probably 'remember' if he sees you carrying on as normal and continuing to interact with different people. Good luck.
2007-10-19 21:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by bartlettthree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he prbly doesn't feel comfortable discussing it or didn't at the time, but there are various possibilities for why that is..."i don't rly remember..." is kind of hinting at "i don't rly wanna talk about that" it seems like, but that would also depend on whether or not he seemed nervous or irritated
now wat he said about how he still rly likes u but he's not sure if u still like him & he doesn't know if u want to b in a relationship & that it's all in ur hands...well...that's prbly ur answer rite there
he rly likes u but he's kind of afraid of being rejected or losing u or sumwer along those lines and he doesn't kno wat u want -(friendship, relationship, etc.) to have with him...and basically it seems like he wants U to make the first move...to tell him how u feel and all that
i rly hope that helps that seems like a confusing situation but i've dealt with things like it myself and so have a lot of my friends lol
2007-10-19 21:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your so called friends pass the messages--they could screw up. The relationship is between YOU AND JARED. Only the communications directly between you and him should matter.
2007-10-19 21:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got I got confused just reading that. If he doesn't know, there isn't anyway for you to figure it all out. People spent WAY to much time listening to others and going 3rd personf or information.
Just suck it up and ask the person yourself.
2007-10-19 21:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing... Guys are shy too. Seems to me like he's one of those guys that want you to make the first move. just ask him out... to a movie or something and see if he does anything and just keep giving hints... when it gets to the point when you cant take it anymore just ask him.... ask him if he likes you...
2007-10-19 21:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and just ask him point blank what he wants out of your relationship and don't allow him to play games.
2007-10-19 21:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by vfreen2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of guys hear those words and think a deep, sensitive conversation is coming so they try to get out of it. Or they think that you'll get mad at them for saying something so they try to get out of it.
2007-10-19 21:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is afraid of rejection. just talk to him and you will be fine. tell him how you feel. he obviously feels the same but is too insecure to start the conversation.
2007-10-19 21:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by imayeoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋