especially me and my mother, she believes we are insulting her when we say totally harmless things, and she insults us (you are SO stupid, you think you are SO great, etc.) She does not live with us and we are thinking of asking her not to come over anymore. Would that make matters worse?
2007-10-19 13:17:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like a personality issue, not a substance issue. By saying that you are considering telling her not to come over any more, you're showing that you probably ARE insulting her even if just in small ways. She can tell how you really feel. She shouldn't be insulting you though, it sounds like you all need to put yourselves in the others' place and be more compassionate. The LAST thing you should do is cut her out, of course that would only make things worse. She needs your love and support. Blocking her out of the family would most likely cause her to spiral out of control and maybe seek harder drugs to ease the pain. Just tell her that she's too defensive. You should love her unconditionally.
2007-10-19 13:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by wolfdancer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but you sound like my ex sister-in-law.
It's a shame that she lashes out at you this way. She's suffering from the side effects of doing too many narcotics. One of them is paranoia and another is psychoses. I used to smoke pot and a lot of it.
She really needs to quit and get her brain back on an even keel.
Asking her to not come around any more might be a temporary solution, but in the long run you need to try to coax her into getting some help to quit. The paranoia and psychoses aren't going to get any better without her laying off of it. It will be hard at first but it will be better for her in the long run to get off of it.
Good luck
2007-10-19 20:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
weed doesn't make a person act this way. she's either doing more than you know of or she's just a b*tch.
i'd tell her to stay away until she can act like a civil human being. telling her to back off won't make things any worse than they are now.
2007-10-19 21:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like something is going on with your sister......perhaps you may think that what you and her mom says to her is harmless.....it doesn't sound like your sister feels as if it is......instead of pushing your sister away and not wanting to be bothered by her.....why don't you guys find out whats going on with her.....get her some help....regardless of where she lives ....she's still your sister
2007-10-19 20:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people, any people, even family will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
if you are allowing her to do these things why are you surprised she is doing it?
demand that she stop it. if she refuses she has to pay the penalty! ask her to leave if she wants to talk that way!
2007-10-19 20:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what does smokn weed have to do with it, nuttn.
2007-10-19 20:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...Alanon for you...
Do not be enablers
Tell her the truth...that her substance abuse has caused a void in the relationship that you used to have and until she is clean she is not welcome in your home...
What is worse, you being at peace without her or miserable with her?
"God grant me..............................."
2007-10-19 20:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by napanative 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋