My hubbie and I just moved from my Florida where my famuly leave and we are in 12 hours away. My family want to spend the holidays with is and my hubbie got mad at me due to that he wants to spend it alone with me. What should I do, if I want to spend with both of them.
2007-10-19 11:11:29 · 12 answers · asked by cookielove1430 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since you've just moved, I think you should stay right where you are this Christmas. Go see your family in February when you can love the Florida weather!
You can go to them for Christmas next year, you aren't setting a precedent by skipping it this time. But if you go to them this time, you are setting a precedent. Hope that makes sense.
2007-10-19 12:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by noname 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can compromise. Now that you are married you should start your own traditions together....come up with something that together you and your husband will do special together on Christmas or Christmas Eve every year....a special drive, a special dinner, going to look at lights together, making Christmas breakfast etc... Have that time to yourself and then do something with your family on the opposite day.
However, I see that you are 12 hours away from your family so that may not be possible....so alternate years. Maybe this year, spend it just together alone and next year you will spend it with your family. This way you can compromise.
2007-10-19 17:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by sacabeans00 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he want you to himself goes against everything the holidays are about. If the holidays are something that you are and have been big into that is something he should have known about before you got married. therefore he should understand that is part of who you are and should respect your wishes to be with your family. If it has something to do with a financial reason, maybe you should open your mind a little more and comprise a plan to save for the trip next year. If he is not willing to comprimise, then ask him why he is so bent on staying away from your family. If this is only about him wanting you alone that may end up being a scary situation of him alienating you from your family in the future. You need to establish your desire to spend the holidays with your family early. Good Luck ! ! Have Fun ! !
2007-10-19 11:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by BrAnDon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't be everywhere on the holidays. What my husband and I did was make it clear to both familys that my husband and I are now a family and we spent christmas day together and celebrated before and after the holiday with the familys. You need to make this clear NOW or it will only get harder and worse to break away. Besides if yall split up now what will happen when you have children? Will they have to choose which parent/grandparent to spend the holidays with?
2007-10-19 18:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tiea H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-07 06:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by vaden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compromise.
Have Thanksgiving with the family and Christmas alone.
Then next year, switch. Have Thanksgiving alone and Christmas together.
You really need to compromise on this somehow.
2007-10-19 11:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id spend Thanksgiving with the whole family (or Christmas) then spend which ever you didn't spend with them alone with him. Like if you spend Thanksgiving with the fam. spend Christmas and new years alone with him. Compromise.
2007-10-19 11:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanksgiving with family and Christmas alone together. Or perhaps visit your family for New Years.
2007-10-19 12:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Holidays are for everyone in your family, not just your husband. In some sense, it's sweet that he wants to spend alone time with you for the holidays. But he has to realize that your family would also like to see you, especially since they probably haven't in a while.
If I was someone else in your family, I'd be unhappy to find out that your reason for not spending time with us is b/c of your husband's decision. They're your family, and if you want to spend time with them for the holidays, then do so.
As a warning, your husband will probably be whiny. Just stroke his ego (as all guys need it), and reassure him that you're just as excited about spending the holidays with him.
2007-10-19 11:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You could do thanksgiving with your family and christmas with your husband.
2007-10-19 11:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋