Can long distance relationships work?

Question

I'm 15, my boyfriend's 18 and has recently gone to uni. We text quite a bit, and talk over the phone, and he comes back every few weeks but our relationship has obviously changed.. and I just wondered, has anyone else tried long distance relationships and can they work? Are they worth the loneliness in between?

Nothing illegal, thanks very much

as far as maturity goes, we're pretty much on the same level

and I'm not naive, I know how important being together is. Thanks, though. The question is whether the loneliness is worth it or not.. because we have the trust.

Answer 1

I met my boyfriend on-line when I was 15 years old. He lived in San Diego and I lived in San Francisco. We never saw each other physically until a year and half later. Since then we would see each other every summer and winter since that was the only time we both had vacations off from school. Its been 5 yrs and 9 months since we've been together and we still travel to see each other every summer and winter.

But now that I am transferring to a university and trying to live on my own, he is willing to make the sacrifice to move up here in San Francisco and work for another branch within his company and attend school here also. But on the other hand, I was willing to transfer to a university in San Diego just to be with him, but he preferred otherwise. We're engaged to be married on our next 6th year anniversary.

As for my advice for you, long-distant relationships do work as long as the BOTH of you are communicating with each other on a normal basis, both give honesty and trust, be open to dealing with frustration, obstacles, and what ever life throws at you. Most importantly, be there for one another and understand each other's needs so one can accodmodate the other and vice versa. Make sacrifices if love is really present.

As for the question regarding loneliness, you will get that feeling from time to time. It made me stronger and more of a believer that long-distant relationships can work, but that feeling should be for the most part, absent, if you communicate on a normal basis.

Lastly, it TAKES TWO, not one.

Answer 2

If you two really care about each other then the loneliness is worth it. I have been in one for 4 years and have see each other in person for about 1 year total. He lives in Germany and i live in California. I know how lonely it can get but its worth it to me because i really care about him. Don't worry about the age thing, i started dating my bf at 16 and we are know both turning 21. Its great that you have the trust that helps with a long distance. Another thing that helps in communication and honesty. Be honest about how you feel because most likely he is feeling the same way. Good luck ! let me know if you have any more questions. :)

Answer 3

It depends upon a lot of things. Maturity level is a definite factor, as it determines whether or not someone can stay committed when pressured. That's not the only thing, but it is a factor when college is involved. I think you may be too young to invest in a long distance relationship. It worked for me, but I'm an adult and now married to my former long distance beau.

Answer 4

Yes, It does work dont worry about the people who say no, i have been in a long distance relationship from last year september and im still with my boyfriend, all you need is communication trust and honesty

Answer 5

Yes it works but you are too young to try to make it work. Long distance relationships are for people that knows they want to get married and be together soon. You are only 15, you should date other people.

Answer 6

Yes they can. If you want to put in the effort to make it work. I've done it myself for at least 4 years. We put forth the effort so it works for us. Only you can answer the loneliness question. You know how it affects you personally. It doesn't bother me in the least.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to say this but going away to school is usually a life changing thing. I would keep the relationship but I wouldn't expect it to last. Think the worst then you won't be disappointed.

Answer 8

Long distance relationships do work but this one isn't. I mean think realistically. He is in college now and you're in high school. Do you really think its going to work? You guys have already started to separate...so yeah. Found you someone around your age. Good luck!

Answer 9

Long distance relationships can work. You are both too young to be in a serious relationship. Enjoy your youth, and don't get tied down to a serious relationship.

Answer 10

It depends on the people involved. You are both very young. I say, don't rely on it. Focus on your school. You need time for you and try not to settle down until you are at least in your late 20's.